Self-Knowledge

Trauma & Childhood

Why Those Who Should Love Us Can Hurt Us

Part of why it is so hard to understand ourselves is that people are constantly doing things to us that defy the common-sense of view of how human beings might plausibly…

Trauma & Childhood

The Upsides of Having a Mental Breakdown

One of the saddest and most puzzling phenomena of psychological life are the incidents commonly known as ‘breakdowns’, in which people find themselves suddenly unable to carry out their normal duties…

Fulfilment

How to Be Interesting

Many of us crave to be more interesting people. The question is how we might become so.  We rightly tend to associate being ‘interesting’ with achieving difference from the norm: with…

Fulfilment

Am I Too Clever?

It is hard to imagine that there could be any such thing as excessive intelligence. After all, most of the problems of the world and of individual lives clearly come down to…

Fear & Insecurity

How Social Media Affects Our Self-Worth

Early on in every life, a child will look up and — implicitly — ask the world: Am I OK? Do I deserve goodwill and sympathy? Am I on track? And,…

Melancholy

Why Do Bad Things Always Happen to Me?

Much is constantly happening that annoys us. Trains pull out of platforms as we approach them; taps snap off their moorings; shopping bags leak; suppliers go bankrupt; colleagues resign; cars break…