Relationships
Three Sorts of Pain in Heartbreak
We are used to thinking of heartbreak as one thing, a single calamity with a single sort of pain. But…
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Giving Up on People Pleasing
The people pleaser needs to learn an unusual and little-mentioned art: that of giving up on people.
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Emotional Skills
The Benefits of Forgetfulness
We are rescued from many of our sorrows not by active solutions or nifty work of the intellect but by our reliable tendencies to forget.
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Self-Knowledge
What We Can Learn on the Toilet
If a cultivated alien were to investigate humanity via our traditionally esteemed achievements in art, literature and philosophy, they might…
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Relationships
The Challenge of Separatedness and Togetherness
In the life of every couple, and every individual, lies a tension between two central and contrasting needs: the need…
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Relationships
The Fear of Engulfment in Love
It is a permanently curious idea: that love – the thing we think we crave and miss so much when…
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Self-Knowledge
What Is the Difference Between the Words ‘Neurotic’ and ‘Psychotic’?
The terms ‘neurotic’ and ‘psychotic’ both indicate, effectively enough, that something is not entirely well with someone’s mental state. However,…
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Self-Knowledge
The Kind of Happiness We Should Be Sad About
Given how hard it is to be happy, it seems churlish and mean to say of anyone that they might…
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Leisure
Love and ‘The Waste Land’
‘The Waste Land’ is the name of a poem published in 1922 by the Anglo-American writer T. S. Eliot. Widely…
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Relationships
Love Lessons
It can be easy to feel – as we look back on our love lives – that we have been…
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Sociability
When People Start To Get Interesting…
We may spend a considerable portion of our lives chewing over – in the background – a highly consequential-sounding question:…
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