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How to Live Long-Term With Trauma

It is in the nature of most traumas that we will never — sadly — entirely get over them. But we can learn to sidestep their worst effects — and aim to infuse our remaining years with creativity and freedom.

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Self-Knowledge

Should We Forgive Our Parents or Not?

For many of us with troubled childhoods marked by trauma and distress, one of the major theoretical problems of adult life is: should we forgive our parents for the past — or not?

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The Point of Writing Letters We Never Send

What may matter most in many situations is not, as we might think, that the person we need to speak to is actually able to hear what we have to say; but rather that we have a proper, in-depth chance to say it any way.

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Reparenting Your Inner Child

We contain within ourselves a version of all the people we have ever been. No version of us entirely disappears, it is merely added to and buttressed, like an oak tree whose rings still contain the marks of all its former circumferences

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Relationships

Why We Love People Who Don’t Love Us Back

We are sometimes puzzled by how frequently we find ourselves in love with people we know are not going to be good for us, but who mirror the disturbing patterns of our attachments from early childhood.

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Self-Knowledge

The Five Features of Paranoia

There are perhaps five main features of the very sad, indeed hellish, condition we know as paranoia…

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The Pessimist’s Guide to Mental Illness

The anxious should defiantly accept that they can never eradicate certain risks but that these can be shouldered — and a habitable life made among the ruins.
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A Life Without Narcissism

By letting go of narcissism, we become entirely focused on what is beyond us; pure observers of the world outside of our selves. 
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In Praise of Small Chats with Strangers

Small sympathetic chats matter above all because few of us are ever very far from sadness and vicious despondency.
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On Suicide

It’s commonly assumed that people kill themselves because something has gone dramatically wrong in their life. But the truth is more nuanced and more psychological: people take their own lives because of the way they interpret events.

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Reparenting Your Inner Child

Self-Knowledge

Reparenting Your Inner Child

One of the more consistently confronting and at times embarrassing concepts that psychology forces us to consider is that of…
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The Five Features of Paranoia

Self-Knowledge

The Five Features of Paranoia

There are perhaps five main features of the very sad, indeed hellish, condition we know as paranoia… Firstly, paranoia means…
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Stop Avoiding Conflict

Relationships

Stop Avoiding Conflict

Being ‘conflict -averse’ sounds like a lovely mild and peaceful way to be. Wouldn’t we all like to avoid conflict?…
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