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What Role Do You Play in Your Relationship?

One of the stranger but more useful suggestions of psychotherapy — and in particular, a branch of it known as Transactional Analysis — is that all of us contain within ourselves three essential personalities: a child, a parent, and an adult.

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Self-Archaeology

The most fundamental idea at the heart of modern psychotherapy is that in order to heal ourselves from our neuroses in the present, we have to understand what went on in our childhoods.
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Are We Just Too Different?

No couple ever breaks up because of the differences between them. They break up because one of them is fed up of not being heard.
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On Projection

All of us have a storehouse of assumptions about what other people are like — one which, in reality, owes very little to actual people who we meet today and a lot more to complications in our childhoods that we have generally forgotten all about.
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The Upsides of Being Ill

It sounds really strange to speak of the upsides of being ill. Surely there are only downsides? But rather than assuming, as we normally do, that our mental illnesses are just a problem for us, we can dare to ask in a spirit of open-minded exploration: What are my illnesses doing for me?

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On Being ‘Triggered’

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On Being ‘Triggered’

The phenomenon of being ‘triggered’ — though it may, at times, be applied too liberally — sits on top of…
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On Projection

Self-Knowledge

On Projection

One of the most continuously fascinating ideas in psychotherapy is the concept of projection. What this means, simply put, is…
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Self-Archaeology

Self-Knowledge

Self-Archaeology

The most fundamental idea at the heart of modern psychotherapy is that in order to heal ourselves from our neuroses…
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The Upsides of Being Ill

Self-Knowledge

The Upsides of Being Ill

It sounds really strange to speak of the upsides of being ill. Surely there are only downsides? But rather than…
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It’s Not Your Fault

Self-Knowledge

It’s Not Your Fault

There’s a strange law of psychology that reveals that small children who are treated badly by their parents will always…
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