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Is There Really No One Out There For Us?
Among people who are dating, we often hear the same complaint: that there is no one out there at all.…
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How to Weaken the Hold of Addiction
Many of us are prey to addictive behaviours which we know run contrary to our deeper interests but which we find ourselves entirely unable to desist from at key moments.
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Behaviours
Charles Darwin and the Descent of Man
It is completely understandable that we are often maddened by what might be called ‘normal’ humanity. In such moods the 19th century naturalist Charles Darwin has much to say to us.
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Behaviours
Straightforward vs. Complicated People
A basic distinction in humans is between those who are simple and straightforward to deal with – and those who are – as we tend to be reminded when we interact with them – repeatedly tricky or complicated to handle.
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Three Sorts of Pain in Heartbreak
We are used to thinking of heartbreak as one thing, a single calamity with a single sort of pain. But…
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Self-Knowledge
What We Can Learn on the Toilet
If a cultivated alien were to investigate humanity via our traditionally esteemed achievements in art, literature and philosophy, they might…
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Relationships
The Challenge of Separatedness and Togetherness
In the life of every couple, and every individual, lies a tension between two central and contrasting needs: the need…
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Relationships
The Fear of Engulfment in Love
It is a permanently curious idea: that love – the thing we think we crave and miss so much when…
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Self-Knowledge
What Is the Difference Between the Words ‘Neurotic’ and ‘Psychotic’?
The terms ‘neurotic’ and ‘psychotic’ both indicate, effectively enough, that something is not entirely well with someone’s mental state. However,…
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Self-Knowledge
The Kind of Happiness We Should Be Sad About
Given how hard it is to be happy, it seems churlish and mean to say of anyone that they might…
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Leisure
Love and ‘The Waste Land’
‘The Waste Land’ is the name of a poem published in 1922 by the Anglo-American writer T. S. Eliot. Widely…
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Relationships
Love Lessons
It can be easy to feel – as we look back on our love lives – that we have been…
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