Chapter 4.



On Not Being in the Moment

Life is full of moments where we are meant to feel certain things. The demand starts in early childhood: it’s our birthday – and we are meant to feel happy. Dad…


On Needing to Find Something to Worry About

It sounds paradoxical and absurd to think that some of us might need to find something to worry about in order to recover our equilibrium. Worry is, after all, something we…


How We Are Easily, Too Easily, 'Triggered'

If we were totally sane, we would respond to the present only on its own terms; we would worry or be angered or give way to anxiety only as much as…


How We Get Damaged by Emotional Neglect

Many of us are wandering the world bearing a lot of emotional damage. We may be depressed, anxious or very difficult around sex and relationships. We might in certain moods ask ourselves where…



We would not have been able to survive so long if we were not able, at points, to get very worried indeed; if we didn’t possess a native genius for flooding…


'Pure' OCD - and Intrusive Thoughts

Few mental afflictions are as humbling or as terrifying as what is known as ‘Pure’ OCD or, more colloquially, Intrusive Thoughts. In standard Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, a person is haunted by…