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The Repetition Compulsion
One of the most remarkable ideas in the history of psychoanalysis is to be found in Freud’s 1920 paper ‘Beyond…
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Why Small Pleasures Become a Bigger, Not a Smaller Deal, the More We Suffer and Age
The more challenging existence as a whole becomes, the more we may appreciate what remains pure and hopeful, despite its modest appearance or lack of obvious glamour.
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What Should a Good Therapist Do For Us?
It can be hard to get a clear sense of how therapy actually works and what we would ideally gain from it. We propose that a good therapist should do the following:
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What We Might Learn from the Dandies of the Congo
One is dressed not in order to be practical for the long-term, but in order to look awe-inspiringly beautiful today: to brighten one’s surroundings and gladden one’s friends and colleagues.
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Why We Become Unable to Protect Ourselves
There are people who, in most walks of life, are extremely canny and highly able to look after themselves. They…
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Beware Those We Fall in Love With
The word ‘madness’ tends to bring to mind distinctly lurid and macabre associations: psychiatric wards, staring eyes, murder weapons, hideous…
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Mental Illness and Love
When we speculate on the causes of mental illness, we typically imagine some form of chemical imbalance or damage to…
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Two Emotional Skills That Save Relationships
Behind every relationship that endures, we can identify two ingredients. Firstly, an ability to break bad news well. Successful lovers…
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The Psychology of Ghosting
We won’t get too far in the dating world without stumbling upon the melancholy phenomenon known as ghosting: someone we…
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The Importance of Feeling Our Feelings
It’s a curious fact of our psychology that some of our greatest upsets come from not allowing ourselves to register…
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How to Make Someone Fall in Love With You
There is something distinctly spooky in the idea that there might be a set route to making one person fall…
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How Only the End Reveals the Truth About Our Partners
A central idea in the psychology of breakups is that there’s a peculiar and paradoxical way in which we can’t…
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