The Problem of Sexual Shame

We have collectively grown highly attuned to the problems associated with a lack of shame around sex: with a decadent culture in which it seems that everything goes, where the atmosphere…

How to Seduce with Confidence

We are never as shy and gauche as we are when attempting to seduce someone we deeply like. The thought of someone this perfect coming to take an interest in us…

Who Initiates Sex: and Why It Matters So Much

It can seem a highly trivial subject to get so upset about – being rightly no more significant than who should open the door first, or open a new jam jar…

What to Do on Your Wedding Night

Unfortunately, tradition has encouraged the idea that the night of the wedding should be filled with heroic sex. This might happen but there are plenty of good reasons why it probably…

On Still Being a Virgin

When the sexual revolution began in the 1960s, there was a standard understanding of what should happen: ‘sexual liberation’ would mean that people would be freed to have more of the…

The Meaning of Infidelity

Infidelity is commonly interpreted as close to the greatest tragedy that could befall any relationship – and as the natural, inevitable prelude to the break-up of a union. It is viewed…