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The Challenge of Separatedness and Togetherness
In the life of every couple, and every individual, lies a tension between two central and contrasting needs: the need…
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Everything Is So Weird
There are moments, terrifying but also useful, vertiginous, comedic and in their own way filled grandeur and beauty, when we leave ordinary reality behind and perceive everything as for once entirely and profoundly weird.
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Escaping Into History
We should, at moments, be allowed to admit to longing to be living in a different age, and not to have to think about all the things that people of our times are so strongly supposed to be obsessed by.
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Perspective
The Inevitability of Choice
There are so few public reminders of life’s necessary trade-offs. Yet once we understand the incompatibilities, we are in a better position to do what we always needed to do: choose.
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Relationships
The Fear of Engulfment in Love
It is a permanently curious idea: that love – the thing we think we crave and miss so much when…
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Self-Knowledge
What Is the Difference Between the Words ‘Neurotic’ and ‘Psychotic’?
The terms ‘neurotic’ and ‘psychotic’ both indicate, effectively enough, that something is not entirely well with someone’s mental state. However,…
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Self-Knowledge
The Kind of Happiness We Should Be Sad About
Given how hard it is to be happy, it seems churlish and mean to say of anyone that they might…
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Leisure
Love and ‘The Waste Land’
‘The Waste Land’ is the name of a poem published in 1922 by the Anglo-American writer T. S. Eliot. Widely…
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Relationships
Love Lessons
It can be easy to feel – as we look back on our love lives – that we have been…
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Sociability
When People Start To Get Interesting…
We may spend a considerable portion of our lives chewing over – in the background – a highly consequential-sounding question:…
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Self-Knowledge
Learning To Be More Immature
Most of us need, of course, to make every effort to behave more maturely around other people: that is, to…
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Self-Knowledge
Understanding The Fear of Intimacy
The feeling of disdain is widespread for those who are said to be, behind the smiles, ‘afraid of intimacy’, or…
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