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What Kinks Are About
One of the great puzzles of psychology is why kinks exist. Not only are we typically highly selective about who…
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Giving Up on People Pleasing
The people pleaser needs to learn an unusual and little-mentioned art: that of giving up on people.
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The Benefits of Forgetfulness
We are rescued from many of our sorrows not by active solutions or nifty work of the intellect but by our reliable tendencies to forget.
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When Love Feels Like Pressure: The Pains of Attachment
One of the more awful risks in love is when a relationship that might well have been viable is scuppered…
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What We Truly Long for in Love
What is it we really hope for and crave in love? One suggestion – deceptively simple to state but hugely…
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Leisure
What Love Looks Like
If we think about what love might look like in a work of art, certain stock images tend to come…
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Why We Should – out of Love – Sometimes Not Love Too Much
It sounds, at one level, absurd to have to hold back from expressing the full intensity of our feelings for…
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How We Help Our Exes Have a Lovely Future
One of the most galling and drily comedic things about relationships is that many of the struggles we had with…
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Calm
The Anxiety That Never Ends
The deceptive promise behind many of our anxieties is that they will come to an end if … if we…
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Sociability
‘I’m Fine, Thank You and How Are You?’
‘I’m fine, thank you and how are you?’: an innocuous, ubiquitous sentence in which so much of the tragedy and…
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Why People Who Were Never Chosen Will Have a Hard Time Choosing You
We may be far into a relationship before a somewhat puzzling and difficult realisation starts to dawn on us: we’re…
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Relationships
When Love Feels Like Pressure: The Pains of Attachment
One of the more awful risks in love is when a relationship that might well have been viable is scuppered…
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Relationships
What We Truly Long for in Love
What is it we really hope for and crave in love? One suggestion – deceptively simple to state but hugely…
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Leisure
What Love Looks Like
If we think about what love might look like in a work of art, certain stock images tend to come…
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Relationships
Why We Should – out of Love – Sometimes Not Love Too Much
It sounds, at one level, absurd to have to hold back from expressing the full intensity of our feelings for…
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Relationships
How We Help Our Exes Have a Lovely Future
One of the most galling and drily comedic things about relationships is that many of the struggles we had with…
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Calm
The Anxiety That Never Ends
The deceptive promise behind many of our anxieties is that they will come to an end if … if we…
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Sociability
‘I’m Fine, Thank You and How Are You?’
‘I’m fine, thank you and how are you?’: an innocuous, ubiquitous sentence in which so much of the tragedy and…
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Relationships
Why People Who Were Never Chosen Will Have a Hard Time Choosing You
We may be far into a relationship before a somewhat puzzling and difficult realisation starts to dawn on us: we’re…
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