Chapter 1.Relationships: Conflicts

How to Save Love with Pessimism


It’s easy to be pessimistic about many things: the state of the planet, the economy, the future of humanity. And yet there’s one area where many of us retain a curious sense of optimism. We have faith that from among the millions of our fellow human beings out there, we will one day be able to locate a very special person.

We’re used to thinking of pessimism as the enemy of good things, but when it comes to relationships, it can be a vital ingredient in keeping a couple together.

Pessimism is generally equated with a grumpy and immature kind of mood. But it is, in fact, at the origin of wisdom – and can even leave us feeling surprisingly cheerful.