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On Needing to Leave the People We Are Trying to Change
We may find ourselves in relationships with people we would dearly love to change: people we so hope would drink…
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The Challenges of Male Friendships
Men are lonely not through any specific deficiency on their part but because of an inherent conflict between what is required of being a man on the one hand and what is involved in being a friend on the other.
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Why Introverts Are As They Are
We become introverted or extroverted as a result of particular experiences; it is our distinctive path through childhood that determines at which end of the spectrum we are going to fall.
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The Boring Person
The boring person isn’t really boring; they are in manic flight from what is profoundly and agonisingly interesting in themselves.
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Are We Rejecting Them Because They’re Wrong – or Because We’re Hurt Inside
On the face of it, ‘not liking’ someone during the dating game is everyone’s great prerogative. Who could possibly question…
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Relationships
Anxious and Avoidant Couples and Their Phones
It is a measure of how quickly our phones have changed our lives that we are collectively still struggling to…
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Self-Knowledge
How Hard It Is to Be Patient
Impatient people deserve special pity: not only do they have to suffer from their affliction, they also have to put…
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Self-Knowledge
The Futility of Seeking Closure
One of our most powerful longings, in relationships where we have suffered (by which we chiefly mean relationships with our…
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Relationships
In Love, Happiness May Need to Be Paid for in Agony
There is nothing more natural, at the start of love, than to seek out happiness. We scan a map and…
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Relationships
The Importance of Expressing Our Needs
It is tear-inducing just how much can go wrong in love because we have failed to master a basic-sounding yet…
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Sociability
On Not Being Able to Listen
We are, most of us, familiar with a particular kind of challenging human: the sort who seems unable to listen…
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Relationships
How We Can Eventually Move on From Heartbreak
At the core of heartbreak lies a particularly cruel belief: the belief in our departed lover’s profound uniqueness. In the…
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Relationships
Are We Rejecting Them Because They’re Wrong – or Because We’re Hurt Inside
On the face of it, ‘not liking’ someone during the dating game is everyone’s great prerogative. Who could possibly question…
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Relationships
Anxious and Avoidant Couples and Their Phones
It is a measure of how quickly our phones have changed our lives that we are collectively still struggling to…
View
Self-Knowledge
How Hard It Is to Be Patient
Impatient people deserve special pity: not only do they have to suffer from their affliction, they also have to put…
View
Self-Knowledge
The Futility of Seeking Closure
One of our most powerful longings, in relationships where we have suffered (by which we chiefly mean relationships with our…
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Relationships
In Love, Happiness May Need to Be Paid for in Agony
There is nothing more natural, at the start of love, than to seek out happiness. We scan a map and…
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Relationships
The Importance of Expressing Our Needs
It is tear-inducing just how much can go wrong in love because we have failed to master a basic-sounding yet…
View
Sociability
On Not Being Able to Listen
We are, most of us, familiar with a particular kind of challenging human: the sort who seems unable to listen…
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Relationships
How We Can Eventually Move on From Heartbreak
At the core of heartbreak lies a particularly cruel belief: the belief in our departed lover’s profound uniqueness. In the…
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