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Anxious and Avoidant Couples and Their Phones
It is a measure of how quickly our phones have changed our lives that we are collectively still struggling to…
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Fear & Insecurity
The Five Features of Paranoia
There are perhaps five main features of the very sad, indeed hellish, condition we know as paranoia…
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Fear & Insecurity
Why So Many of Us Are Masochists
We ‘love’ pain for being profoundly familiar; we love it for taking us home.
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Self-Knowledge
How Hard It Is to Be Patient
Impatient people deserve special pity: not only do they have to suffer from their affliction, they also have to put…
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The Futility of Seeking Closure
One of our most powerful longings, in relationships where we have suffered (by which we chiefly mean relationships with our…
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Relationships
In Love, Happiness May Need to Be Paid for in Agony
There is nothing more natural, at the start of love, than to seek out happiness. We scan a map and…
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The Importance of Expressing Our Needs
It is tear-inducing just how much can go wrong in love because we have failed to master a basic-sounding yet…
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Sociability
On Not Being Able to Listen
We are, most of us, familiar with a particular kind of challenging human: the sort who seems unable to listen…
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Relationships
How We Can Eventually Move on From Heartbreak
At the core of heartbreak lies a particularly cruel belief: the belief in our departed lover’s profound uniqueness. In the…
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Relationships
Cures for Love
‘Cures for Love’ is the title of a self-help book written by the Roman poet Ovid in 2 AD that…
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How Heartbreak Pushes Artists to Their Greatest Achievements
For all its many inconveniences and agonies, heartbreak appears to have a longstanding and curious power to push artists towards…
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Self-Knowledge
How Hard It Is to Be Patient
Impatient people deserve special pity: not only do they have to suffer from their affliction, they also have to put…
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Self-Knowledge
The Futility of Seeking Closure
One of our most powerful longings, in relationships where we have suffered (by which we chiefly mean relationships with our…
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Relationships
In Love, Happiness May Need to Be Paid for in Agony
There is nothing more natural, at the start of love, than to seek out happiness. We scan a map and…
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Relationships
The Importance of Expressing Our Needs
It is tear-inducing just how much can go wrong in love because we have failed to master a basic-sounding yet…
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Sociability
On Not Being Able to Listen
We are, most of us, familiar with a particular kind of challenging human: the sort who seems unable to listen…
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Relationships
How We Can Eventually Move on From Heartbreak
At the core of heartbreak lies a particularly cruel belief: the belief in our departed lover’s profound uniqueness. In the…
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Relationships
Cures for Love
‘Cures for Love’ is the title of a self-help book written by the Roman poet Ovid in 2 AD that…
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Relationships
How Heartbreak Pushes Artists to Their Greatest Achievements
For all its many inconveniences and agonies, heartbreak appears to have a longstanding and curious power to push artists towards…
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