Chapter 3
Relationships
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04.A Brief History of Dating
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05.How to Prove Attractive to Someone on a Date
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06.Existentialism and Dating
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07.What to Talk about on a Date
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08.If We're All Bad at Love, Shouldn't We Change Our Definition of Normality?
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09.Other People's Relationships
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10.In Praise of Unrequited Love
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11.What to Eat and Drink on a Date
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12.The Cure for Love
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13.How to Seduce Someone on a Date
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14.What is Love?
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15.Why Flirting Matters
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16.How Romanticism Ruined Love
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17.How We Choose a Partner
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18.Our Most Romantic Moments
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19.Reasons to Remain Single
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20.A Short History of Love
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21.Loving and Being Loved
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22.The Problems of Being Very Beautiful
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23.On Romanticism
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24.How to Enjoy a New Relationship
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25.On Flirtation
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26.On Finding the 'Right' Person
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27.Artificial Conversations
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28.On the Role of Stories in Love
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29.On the Madness and Charm of Crushes
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30.On Being Romantic or Classical
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31.On Marrying the Wrong Person
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32.Why Did They Leave Us?
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33.How to Break Up
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34.'Unfair Dismissal' in Love
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35.Why Anxious and Avoidant Partners Find It Hard to Leave One Another
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36.Why We Should Not Silently Suffer From A Lack of Touch in Love
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37.Why Anger Has a Place in Love
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38.The Challenges of Anxious-Avoidant Relationships
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39.What We Might Learn in Couples Therapy
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40.An Alternative to Being Controlling
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41.How to Complain So a Partner Will Listen
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42.On the Tendency to Love and Hate Excessively
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43.Coping with Betrayal
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44.The Importance of Atonement
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45.What Is Wrong with Your Partner - and Why?
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46.How Are You Difficult to Live with?
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47.The Importance of Relationship Counselling
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48.For Moments of Marital Crisis
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49.How to Argue in Relationships
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50.Why Tiny Things about Our Partners Drive Us Mad
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51.Be the Change You Want To See
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52.I Wish I Was Still Single
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53.Why We Go Cold on Our Partners
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54.The Standard Marriage and Its Seven Alternatives
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55.Teaching and Love
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56.An Instruction Manual to Oneself
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57.How to Get Over a Rejection
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58.How to End a Relationship
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59.Beyond Feminism
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60.Stay or Leave?
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61.Why Affectionate Teasing is Kind and Necessary
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62.The Couple Courtroom Game
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63.Getting over a Row
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64.How to Get Divorced
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65.On the Fear of Intimacy
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66.The Secret Problems of Other Couples
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67.On the Dangers of Being Too Defensive
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68.On How to Defuse an Argument
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69.How Not to Break Up with Someone
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70.Why You Resent Your Partner
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71.A Lover's Guide to Sulking
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72.If You Loved Me, You Wouldn't Want to Change Me
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73.How 'Transference' Makes You Hard to Live With
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74.Why It Is Always Your Partner's Fault
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75.If It Wasn't for You...
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76.Why You Are So Annoyed By What You Once Admired
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77.Why You’re (Probably) Not a Great Communicator
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78.The Problems of Closeness
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79.What to Do on Your Wedding Night
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80.On Still Being a Virgin
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81.The Meaning of Infidelity
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82.Love and Sex
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83.How to Seduce with Confidence
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84.Impotence and Respect
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85.Why Polyamory Won’t Work for You
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86.Sexual Non-Liberation
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87.The Excitement of Keeping Clothes On
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88.The Excitement of Kissing
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89.The Appeal of Outdoor Sex
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90.The Sexual Fantasies of Others
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91.On Art and Masturbation
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92.The Psychology of Cross-Dressing
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93.The Fear of Being Bad in Bed
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94.The Sex-Starved Relationship
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95.How to Start Having Sex Again
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96.On Forgetting Lovers
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97.The Poignancy of Old Pornography
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98.On Porn Addiction
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99.A Brief Philosophy of Oral Sex
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100.On Being a Sleazebag
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101.Why We Go Off Sex
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102.A Brief Theory of Sexual Excitement
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111.Should We Play It Cool When We Like Someone?
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112.When Someone We Love Has Died
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113.How We Can Have Our Hearts Broken Even Though No One Has Left Us
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114.The Psychology of Our Exes
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115.How Not to Be Tortured By a Love Rival
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116.What Is Your Attachment Style?
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117.On Rescue Fantasies
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118.Two Reasons Why You Might Still Be Single
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119.How to Cope with an Avoidant Partner
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120.The Secrets of a Privileged Childhood
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121.'I Will Never Find the Right Partner'
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122.Too Close or Too Distant: How We Stand in Relationships
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123.What Should Go in Your Wedding Album?
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124.Who Should You Invite to Your Wedding?
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125.Pragmatic Reasons for Getting Married
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126.Why We're Compelled to Love Difficult People
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127.Why Your Lover is Very Damaged - and Annoying
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128.The Pleasure of Reading Together in Bed
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129.Why We Need the Ancient Greek Vocabulary of Love
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130.Twenty Ideas on Marriage
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131.The Incumbent Problem
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132.22 Questions to Reignite Love
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133.The Wisdom of Romantic Compromise
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134.How to Love Ugly People
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135.Political Correctness vs. Politeness
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136.Daddy Issues
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137.Why Old Friends Matter
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138.Why Family Matters
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139.Why We (Sometimes) Hope the People We Love Might Die
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140.Can Exes be Friends?
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141.How to Complain
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142.How to Get Over Someone
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143.Why Only the Happy Single Find True Love
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144.How We Need to Keep Growing Up
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145.Why, Once You Understand Love, You Could Love Anyone
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146.Love and Self-Love
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147.Humour in Love
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148.The Terrors of Being Loved
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149.Why True Love Doesn’t Have to Last Forever
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150.The Partner as Child Theory
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151.The Advantages of Long-Distance Love
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152.On Being Unintentionally Hurt
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153.In Praise of Hugs
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154.On Compromise
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155.Meet the Parents
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156.How Not to Think on a Date
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157.Keeping Secrets in Relationships
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158.On the Serious Role of Stuffed Animals
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159.Utopian Marriage
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160.On the Longing for Maternal Tenderness
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161.When Is One Ready to Get Married?
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162.On the Longing for Authority
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163.On the Continuing Relevance of Marriage
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164.On the Hardest Job in the World
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165.On Charity
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166.On Socks and Friendship
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167.On the Beloved's Wrist