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On Needing to Leave the People We Are Trying to Change
We may find ourselves in relationships with people we would dearly love to change: people we so hope would drink…
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A Crucial Sign That Someone is Worth Going Out With
There is one sign that more than any other indicates that someone may well be a rewarding and trustworthy person to go out with: that they are prepared to go to therapy.
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There Are No Small Issues in Love
The only way to prevent the largest problems is to focus exhaustively and with dark good humour on the very smallest ones.
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On Not Being Very Good at Love
Our romantic fiascos can get a little less arduous the more we can bring ourselves to shrug our shoulders and confess with a very dark smile: I really can’t do this thing called love.
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Are We Rejecting Them Because They’re Wrong – or Because We’re Hurt Inside
On the face of it, ‘not liking’ someone during the dating game is everyone’s great prerogative. Who could possibly question…
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Anxious and Avoidant Couples and Their Phones
It is a measure of how quickly our phones have changed our lives that we are collectively still struggling to…
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How Hard It Is to Be Patient
Impatient people deserve special pity: not only do they have to suffer from their affliction, they also have to put…
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The Futility of Seeking Closure
One of our most powerful longings, in relationships where we have suffered (by which we chiefly mean relationships with our…
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In Love, Happiness May Need to Be Paid for in Agony
There is nothing more natural, at the start of love, than to seek out happiness. We scan a map and…
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The Importance of Expressing Our Needs
It is tear-inducing just how much can go wrong in love because we have failed to master a basic-sounding yet…
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Sociability
On Not Being Able to Listen
We are, most of us, familiar with a particular kind of challenging human: the sort who seems unable to listen…
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How We Can Eventually Move on From Heartbreak
At the core of heartbreak lies a particularly cruel belief: the belief in our departed lover’s profound uniqueness. In the…
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Relationships
Are We Rejecting Them Because They’re Wrong – or Because We’re Hurt Inside
On the face of it, ‘not liking’ someone during the dating game is everyone’s great prerogative. Who could possibly question…
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Relationships
Anxious and Avoidant Couples and Their Phones
It is a measure of how quickly our phones have changed our lives that we are collectively still struggling to…
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Self-Knowledge
How Hard It Is to Be Patient
Impatient people deserve special pity: not only do they have to suffer from their affliction, they also have to put…
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Self-Knowledge
The Futility of Seeking Closure
One of our most powerful longings, in relationships where we have suffered (by which we chiefly mean relationships with our…
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Relationships
In Love, Happiness May Need to Be Paid for in Agony
There is nothing more natural, at the start of love, than to seek out happiness. We scan a map and…
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Relationships
The Importance of Expressing Our Needs
It is tear-inducing just how much can go wrong in love because we have failed to master a basic-sounding yet…
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Sociability
On Not Being Able to Listen
We are, most of us, familiar with a particular kind of challenging human: the sort who seems unable to listen…
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Relationships
How We Can Eventually Move on From Heartbreak
At the core of heartbreak lies a particularly cruel belief: the belief in our departed lover’s profound uniqueness. In the…
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