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The Importance of Feeling Our Feelings
It’s a curious fact of our psychology that some of our greatest upsets come from not allowing ourselves to register…
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How to Make Someone Fall in Love With You
There is something distinctly spooky in the idea that there might be a set route to making one person fall…
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How Only the End Reveals the Truth About Our Partners
A central idea in the psychology of breakups is that there’s a peculiar and paradoxical way in which we can’t…
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On Needing to Leave the People We Are Trying to Change
We may find ourselves in relationships with people we would dearly love to change: people we so hope would drink…
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Are We Rejecting Them Because They’re Wrong – or Because We’re Hurt Inside
On the face of it, ‘not liking’ someone during the dating game is everyone’s great prerogative. Who could possibly question…
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Anxious and Avoidant Couples and Their Phones
It is a measure of how quickly our phones have changed our lives that we are collectively still struggling to…
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How Hard It Is to Be Patient
Impatient people deserve special pity: not only do they have to suffer from their affliction, they also have to put…
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The Futility of Seeking Closure
One of our most powerful longings, in relationships where we have suffered (by which we chiefly mean relationships with our…
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In Love, Happiness May Need to Be Paid for in Agony
There is nothing more natural, at the start of love, than to seek out happiness. We scan a map and…
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Relationships
How to Make Someone Fall in Love With You
There is something distinctly spooky in the idea that there might be a set route to making one person fall…
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Relationships
How Only the End Reveals the Truth About Our Partners
A central idea in the psychology of breakups is that there’s a peculiar and paradoxical way in which we can’t…
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Relationships
On Needing to Leave the People We Are Trying to Change
We may find ourselves in relationships with people we would dearly love to change: people we so hope would drink…
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Relationships
Are We Rejecting Them Because They’re Wrong – or Because We’re Hurt Inside
On the face of it, ‘not liking’ someone during the dating game is everyone’s great prerogative. Who could possibly question…
View
Relationships
Anxious and Avoidant Couples and Their Phones
It is a measure of how quickly our phones have changed our lives that we are collectively still struggling to…
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Self-Knowledge
How Hard It Is to Be Patient
Impatient people deserve special pity: not only do they have to suffer from their affliction, they also have to put…
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Self-Knowledge
The Futility of Seeking Closure
One of our most powerful longings, in relationships where we have suffered (by which we chiefly mean relationships with our…
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Relationships
In Love, Happiness May Need to Be Paid for in Agony
There is nothing more natural, at the start of love, than to seek out happiness. We scan a map and…
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