Mental Illness and Love
When we speculate on the causes of mental illness, we typically imagine some form of chemical imbalance or damage to…
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Giving Up on People Pleasing
The people pleaser needs to learn an unusual and little-mentioned art: that of giving up on people.
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The Benefits of Forgetfulness
We are rescued from many of our sorrows not by active solutions or nifty work of the intellect but by our reliable tendencies to forget.
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Two Emotional Skills That Save Relationships
Behind every relationship that endures, we can identify two ingredients. Firstly, an ability to break bad news well. Successful lovers…
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The Psychology of Ghosting
We won’t get too far in the dating world without stumbling upon the melancholy phenomenon known as ghosting: someone we…
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Self-Knowledge
The Importance of Feeling Our Feelings
It’s a curious fact of our psychology that some of our greatest upsets come from not allowing ourselves to register…
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Relationships
How to Make Someone Fall in Love With You
There is something distinctly spooky in the idea that there might be a set route to making one person fall…
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How Only the End Reveals the Truth About Our Partners
A central idea in the psychology of breakups is that there’s a peculiar and paradoxical way in which we can’t…
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Relationships
On Needing to Leave the People We Are Trying to Change
We may find ourselves in relationships with people we would dearly love to change: people we so hope would drink…
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Are We Rejecting Them Because They’re Wrong – or Because We’re Hurt Inside
On the face of it, ‘not liking’ someone during the dating game is everyone’s great prerogative. Who could possibly question…
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Anxious and Avoidant Couples and Their Phones
It is a measure of how quickly our phones have changed our lives that we are collectively still struggling to…
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Relationships
Two Emotional Skills That Save Relationships
Behind every relationship that endures, we can identify two ingredients. Firstly, an ability to break bad news well. Successful lovers…
View
Relationships
The Psychology of Ghosting
We won’t get too far in the dating world without stumbling upon the melancholy phenomenon known as ghosting: someone we…
View
Self-Knowledge
The Importance of Feeling Our Feelings
It’s a curious fact of our psychology that some of our greatest upsets come from not allowing ourselves to register…
View
Relationships
How to Make Someone Fall in Love With You
There is something distinctly spooky in the idea that there might be a set route to making one person fall…
View
Relationships
How Only the End Reveals the Truth About Our Partners
A central idea in the psychology of breakups is that there’s a peculiar and paradoxical way in which we can’t…
View
Relationships
On Needing to Leave the People We Are Trying to Change
We may find ourselves in relationships with people we would dearly love to change: people we so hope would drink…
View
Relationships
Are We Rejecting Them Because They’re Wrong – or Because We’re Hurt Inside
On the face of it, ‘not liking’ someone during the dating game is everyone’s great prerogative. Who could possibly question…
View
Relationships
Anxious and Avoidant Couples and Their Phones
It is a measure of how quickly our phones have changed our lives that we are collectively still struggling to…
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