Relationships
Honesty On Early Dates
We are here, ultimately, because we are fed up with being unseen; we have come here to be known, to…
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Everything Is So Weird
There are moments, terrifying but also useful, vertiginous, comedic and in their own way filled grandeur and beauty, when we leave ordinary reality behind and perceive everything as for once entirely and profoundly weird.
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Escaping Into History
We should, at moments, be allowed to admit to longing to be living in a different age, and not to have to think about all the things that people of our times are so strongly supposed to be obsessed by.
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The Inevitability of Choice
There are so few public reminders of life’s necessary trade-offs. Yet once we understand the incompatibilities, we are in a better position to do what we always needed to do: choose.
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Self-Knowledge
Your Two Options in Love After a Bad Childhood
Let’s imagine you had a bad childhood. You may hardly remember it; it almost doesn’t matter. The easiest way to…
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Relationships
The Mess of the Dating World
Any exposure to the modern dating world quickly teaches us that there is extraordinary chaos at large, and nowhere is…
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Relationships
Why Do Some People Have Such Trouble Being Single?
We might posit the existence of two very different kinds of single people: what we could call the cheerfully single…
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Self-Knowledge
Dating, Confidence and Childhood
We tend to keep a wide intellectual berth between our childhoods and our dating lives. The first was about rubber…
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Relationships
The Courage to Love Again
It’s odd, surely, to use the word ‘courage’ – the thing you need in air raid shelters and cancer wards…
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Relationships
Leaving in Search of a Worse Relationship
Common sense dictates that people leave relationships because they wish, in essence, to find someone better: someone better able to…
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Relationships
On Seeing an Ex’s Profile on a Dating App
There will have been versions of this in other eras, of course. Seeing their name on the board for the…
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Sociability
Eight Rules for Friendship
A Community Dedicated to Learning the Art of Friendship We are inclined to think that the secret of great friendship…
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