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Beware Those We Fall in Love With
The word ‘madness’ tends to bring to mind distinctly lurid and macabre associations: psychiatric wards, staring eyes, murder weapons, hideous…
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On Feeling Manic
Many of us are prone to slip into states of mind we might call ‘manic’ – in which we run obsessively and at high speed away from something within us that asks for our attention and yet feels intolerably raw and overwhelming.
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Might I Be Feeling Lonely Rather Than Worried?
We might ask a question of our mood that sounds deliberately and provocatively strange: Might I principally, at heart, be lonely rather than worried?
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The Ecstatic Joy We Deny Ourselves
What if we didn’t always have to be as sad and as anxious as we usually are? What if we surrendered to loving and to being loved?
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Mental Illness and Love
When we speculate on the causes of mental illness, we typically imagine some form of chemical imbalance or damage to…
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Relationships
Two Emotional Skills That Save Relationships
Behind every relationship that endures, we can identify two ingredients. Firstly, an ability to break bad news well. Successful lovers…
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The Psychology of Ghosting
We won’t get too far in the dating world without stumbling upon the melancholy phenomenon known as ghosting: someone we…
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Self-Knowledge
The Importance of Feeling Our Feelings
It’s a curious fact of our psychology that some of our greatest upsets come from not allowing ourselves to register…
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Relationships
How to Make Someone Fall in Love With You
There is something distinctly spooky in the idea that there might be a set route to making one person fall…
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How Only the End Reveals the Truth About Our Partners
A central idea in the psychology of breakups is that there’s a peculiar and paradoxical way in which we can’t…
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On Needing to Leave the People We Are Trying to Change
We may find ourselves in relationships with people we would dearly love to change: people we so hope would drink…
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Are We Rejecting Them Because They’re Wrong – or Because We’re Hurt Inside
On the face of it, ‘not liking’ someone during the dating game is everyone’s great prerogative. Who could possibly question…
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Mental Illness and Love
When we speculate on the causes of mental illness, we typically imagine some form of chemical imbalance or damage to…
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Relationships
Two Emotional Skills That Save Relationships
Behind every relationship that endures, we can identify two ingredients. Firstly, an ability to break bad news well. Successful lovers…
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Relationships
The Psychology of Ghosting
We won’t get too far in the dating world without stumbling upon the melancholy phenomenon known as ghosting: someone we…
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Self-Knowledge
The Importance of Feeling Our Feelings
It’s a curious fact of our psychology that some of our greatest upsets come from not allowing ourselves to register…
View
Relationships
How to Make Someone Fall in Love With You
There is something distinctly spooky in the idea that there might be a set route to making one person fall…
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Relationships
How Only the End Reveals the Truth About Our Partners
A central idea in the psychology of breakups is that there’s a peculiar and paradoxical way in which we can’t…
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Relationships
On Needing to Leave the People We Are Trying to Change
We may find ourselves in relationships with people we would dearly love to change: people we so hope would drink…
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Relationships
Are We Rejecting Them Because They’re Wrong – or Because We’re Hurt Inside
On the face of it, ‘not liking’ someone during the dating game is everyone’s great prerogative. Who could possibly question…
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