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The Anxiety That Never Ends
The deceptive promise behind many of our anxieties is that they will come to an end if … if we…
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On Feeling Manic
Many of us are prone to slip into states of mind we might call ‘manic’ – in which we run obsessively and at high speed away from something within us that asks for our attention and yet feels intolerably raw and overwhelming.
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Might I Be Feeling Lonely Rather Than Worried?
We might ask a question of our mood that sounds deliberately and provocatively strange: Might I principally, at heart, be lonely rather than worried?
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The Ecstatic Joy We Deny Ourselves
What if we didn’t always have to be as sad and as anxious as we usually are? What if we surrendered to loving and to being loved?
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Sociability
‘I’m Fine, Thank You and How Are You?’
‘I’m fine, thank you and how are you?’: an innocuous, ubiquitous sentence in which so much of the tragedy and…
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Relationships
Why People Who Were Never Chosen Will Have a Hard Time Choosing You
We may be far into a relationship before a somewhat puzzling and difficult realisation starts to dawn on us: we’re…
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Relationships
Partners Who Punish You for Loving Them
We might think that what everyone longs for is love, and that the natural response to being loved would be…
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Self-Knowledge
People Who Are Missing a Sense of Self
One of the odder features of life is that, without there being too many significant outward signs of the problem,…
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Self-Knowledge
On Mocking the Superstitious
Rational people are used to being (at least in private) distinctly merciless in their mockery of the superstitious: the cohort…
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Relationships
The Best and Worst Ways to Be Left in Love
Being left by someone who once loved us – and whom we still adore – has to count among the…
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Self-Knowledge
When People Tell You Who They Are, Believe Them
There’s a familiar expression that captures a deep psychological truth: ‘when people tell you who they are, believe them’. What…
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Relationships
Why – and How – We Need to Make Our Peace With Being Single
Among the many skills required to have a good relationship, one stands out above any other: the capacity to live…
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Sociability
‘I’m Fine, Thank You and How Are You?’
‘I’m fine, thank you and how are you?’: an innocuous, ubiquitous sentence in which so much of the tragedy and…
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Relationships
Why People Who Were Never Chosen Will Have a Hard Time Choosing You
We may be far into a relationship before a somewhat puzzling and difficult realisation starts to dawn on us: we’re…
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Relationships
Partners Who Punish You for Loving Them
We might think that what everyone longs for is love, and that the natural response to being loved would be…
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Self-Knowledge
People Who Are Missing a Sense of Self
One of the odder features of life is that, without there being too many significant outward signs of the problem,…
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Self-Knowledge
On Mocking the Superstitious
Rational people are used to being (at least in private) distinctly merciless in their mockery of the superstitious: the cohort…
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Relationships
The Best and Worst Ways to Be Left in Love
Being left by someone who once loved us – and whom we still adore – has to count among the…
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Self-Knowledge
When People Tell You Who They Are, Believe Them
There’s a familiar expression that captures a deep psychological truth: ‘when people tell you who they are, believe them’. What…
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Relationships
Why – and How – We Need to Make Our Peace With Being Single
Among the many skills required to have a good relationship, one stands out above any other: the capacity to live…
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