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How Heartbreak Pushes Artists to Their Greatest Achievements
For all its many inconveniences and agonies, heartbreak appears to have a longstanding and curious power to push artists towards…
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The Challenges of Male Friendships
Men are lonely not through any specific deficiency on their part but because of an inherent conflict between what is required of being a man on the one hand and what is involved in being a friend on the other.
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Why Introverts Are As They Are
We become introverted or extroverted as a result of particular experiences; it is our distinctive path through childhood that determines at which end of the spectrum we are going to fall.
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The Boring Person
The boring person isn’t really boring; they are in manic flight from what is profoundly and agonisingly interesting in themselves.
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The Theory of Triangulation
‘Triangulation’ is a term used in psychoanalysis to refer to the way in which someone can be drawn to repeatedly…
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Calm
The Therapeutic Benefits of a Walk
Imagine that we’ve been in the apartment by ourselves since the previous evening, and now, at the start of the…
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Relationships
The Ordinariness of the Lovers Who Devastate Us
When we hear certain stories of devastating heartbreak – the kind where the longing and the suffering seem limitless –…
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How Heartbreak Ends
Heartbreak is a paradoxical state in which, for a time – very strangely – we take the side of the…
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Relationships
Dating When You’ve Learnt to Love Yourself
Dating is ostensibly the business of searching for someone to love – but for it to go well, it requires…
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Relationships
Ruminating on One’s Ex
We can spend a great deal of time – years, perhaps – wondering why certain people, whom we loved very…
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Relationships
The Only Love Worthy of the Name
Some of us will require the better part of a lifetime to learn a very simple-sounding lesson – one that…
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Self-Knowledge
What Is Gut Instinct – and How to Access It
One of the odder features of our psychology is the existence of what we colloquially call our ‘gut instinct’, a…
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Self-Knowledge
The Theory of Triangulation
‘Triangulation’ is a term used in psychoanalysis to refer to the way in which someone can be drawn to repeatedly…
View
Calm
The Therapeutic Benefits of a Walk
Imagine that we’ve been in the apartment by ourselves since the previous evening, and now, at the start of the…
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Relationships
The Ordinariness of the Lovers Who Devastate Us
When we hear certain stories of devastating heartbreak – the kind where the longing and the suffering seem limitless –…
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Relationships
How Heartbreak Ends
Heartbreak is a paradoxical state in which, for a time – very strangely – we take the side of the…
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Relationships
Dating When You’ve Learnt to Love Yourself
Dating is ostensibly the business of searching for someone to love – but for it to go well, it requires…
View
Relationships
Ruminating on One’s Ex
We can spend a great deal of time – years, perhaps – wondering why certain people, whom we loved very…
View
Relationships
The Only Love Worthy of the Name
Some of us will require the better part of a lifetime to learn a very simple-sounding lesson – one that…
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Self-Knowledge
What Is Gut Instinct – and How to Access It
One of the odder features of our psychology is the existence of what we colloquially call our ‘gut instinct’, a…
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