Relationships
Honesty On Early Dates
We are here, ultimately, because we are fed up with being unseen; we have come here to be known, to…
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Sociability
The Challenges of Male Friendships
Men are lonely not through any specific deficiency on their part but because of an inherent conflict between what is required of being a man on the one hand and what is involved in being a friend on the other.
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Why Introverts Are As They Are
We become introverted or extroverted as a result of particular experiences; it is our distinctive path through childhood that determines at which end of the spectrum we are going to fall.
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The Boring Person
The boring person isn’t really boring; they are in manic flight from what is profoundly and agonisingly interesting in themselves.
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Your Two Options in Love After a Bad Childhood
Let’s imagine you had a bad childhood. You may hardly remember it; it almost doesn’t matter. The easiest way to…
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Relationships
The Mess of the Dating World
Any exposure to the modern dating world quickly teaches us that there is extraordinary chaos at large, and nowhere is…
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Why Do Some People Have Such Trouble Being Single?
We might posit the existence of two very different kinds of single people: what we could call the cheerfully single…
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Dating, Confidence and Childhood
We tend to keep a wide intellectual berth between our childhoods and our dating lives. The first was about rubber…
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Relationships
The Courage to Love Again
It’s odd, surely, to use the word ‘courage’ – the thing you need in air raid shelters and cancer wards…
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Relationships
Leaving in Search of a Worse Relationship
Common sense dictates that people leave relationships because they wish, in essence, to find someone better: someone better able to…
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Relationships
On Seeing an Ex’s Profile on a Dating App
There will have been versions of this in other eras, of course. Seeing their name on the board for the…
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Sociability
Eight Rules for Friendship
A Community Dedicated to Learning the Art of Friendship We are inclined to think that the secret of great friendship…
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