How Perfectionism Makes Us Ill
There is a kind of person who seems at first glance to have an admirable degree of self-motivation, thoroughness and drive. They are up at dawn, they rarely take holidays, they…
Self-Knowledge: Trauma & Childhood
- 01. How Perfectionism Makes Us Ill
- 02. How We Should Have Been Loved
- 03. Self-Hatred and High-Achievement
- 04. A Self-Hatred Audit
- 05. How Mental Illness Impacts Our Bodies
- 06. Two Reasons Why People End up Parenting Badly
- 07. What is Emotional Neglect?
- 08. How Unloving Parents can Generate Self-Hating Children
- 09. How Mental Illness Closes Down Our Minds
- 10. Trauma and EMDR Therapy
- 11. How to Fight off Your Inner Critic
- 12. The One Subject You Really Need to Study: Your Own Childhood
- 13. Sharing Our Early Wounds
- 14. Trauma and How to Overcome It
- 15. Why We're All Messed Up By Our Childhoods
- 16. The Golden Child Syndrome
- 17. The Importance of Being an Unhappy Teenager
- 18. How We Get Damaged by Emotional Neglect
- 19. The Secrets of a Privileged Childhood
- 20. What We Owe to the People Who Loved Us in Childhood
- 21. Criticism When You've Had a Bad Childhood
- 22. On Suffering in Silence
- 23. How a Messed up Childhood Affects You in Adulthood
- 24. Daddy Issues
- 25. The Non-Rewritable Disc: the Fateful Impact of Childhood
- 26. On the Longing for Maternal Tenderness
How We Should Have Been Loved
We hear so much about how difficult childhoods can damage people that we sometimes fail to consider the fascinating and telling obverse: what happens in emotionally-nurturing families, what does it mean…
Self-Hatred and High-Achievement
It might seem – at first glance – as though the people we term high-achievers could not possibly have any relationship to self-hatred: they are the ones who did exceptionally well…
A Self-Hatred Audit
One of the odder features of self-hatred is that the affliction may escape our notice for the greater part of our lives. We may simply not be aware that we don’t…
How Mental Illness Impacts Our Bodies
The Body Keeps the Score is the beautiful and suggestive title of a book published in 2014 by a Dutch professor of psychiatry at Boston University called Bessel van der Kolk.…
Two Reasons Why People End up Parenting Badly
Given how important it is to be properly loved by one’s parents in order to have an emotionally sane grown-up life, one may wonder with some urgency why – in cases…