Two Reasons Why People End up Parenting Badly
Given how important it is to be properly loved by one’s parents in order to have an emotionally sane grown-up life, one may wonder with some urgency why – in cases…
Self-Knowledge: Trauma & Childhood
- 01. Two Reasons Why People End up Parenting Badly
- 02. What is Emotional Neglect?
- 03. How Unloving Parents can Generate Self-Hating Children
- 04. How Mental Illness Closes Down Our Minds
- 05. Trauma and EMDR Therapy
- 06. How to Fight off Your Inner Critic
- 07. The One Subject You Really Need to Study: Your Own Childhood
- 08. Sharing Our Early Wounds
- 09. Trauma and How to Overcome It
- 10. Why We're All Messed Up By Our Childhoods
- 11. The Golden Child Syndrome
- 12. The Importance of Being an Unhappy Teenager
- 13. How We Get Damaged by Emotional Neglect
- 14. The Secrets of a Privileged Childhood
- 15. What We Owe to the People Who Loved Us in Childhood
- 16. Criticism When You've Had a Bad Childhood
- 17. On Suffering in Silence
- 18. How a Messed up Childhood Affects You in Adulthood
- 19. Daddy Issues
- 20. The Non-Rewritable Disc: the Fateful Impact of Childhood
- 21. On the Longing for Maternal Tenderness
What is Emotional Neglect?
When we imagine the difficulties involved in a so-called ‘bad childhood’, we most readily think in terms of children who are physically harmed – beaten, underfed, sexually abused – or else…
How Unloving Parents can Generate Self-Hating Children
A central fact about early childhood is that babies are born into the world entirely at the mercy of others. They have no native strength, intelligence or utility, they cannot fight…
How Mental Illness Closes Down Our Minds
It may sound odd or impolite to suggest that most of us, when we are in the grip of mental illness, are no longer capable of thinking. That’s not how it…
Trauma and EMDR Therapy
The fundamental idea behind psychotherapy is that we tend to grow mentally unwell because we haven’t been able to think with sufficient clarity about the difficulties in our past, typically in…
How to Fight off Your Inner Critic
We almost all have a character inside our minds whom we might call the inner critic. It tends to pay its visits late at night, it waits until we’re very tired…