Looking For Love | Four-Week Course

A four-week course to prepare us for the complex business of finding and maintaining love.

Finding love is no easy task. The challenges we face are highly complex and constantly evolving, yet rarely explored with any great rigour. To help us navigate this complicated business, we’ve drawn together the best of The School of Life’s curriculum into a four-week intensive course. With other curious and open-minded people, we will develop the emotional skills to know what we are looking for and how to overcome the obstacles that stand in our way.

This is not a practical course in how to use dating apps or widen our social networks. Rather, our curriculum brings the best insights of philosophy and psychology to bear on the emotional concerns that we face in finding and maintaining love. Each week expert faculty will guide us through ideas and exercises designed to challenge our patterns and instincts around love and encourage us to share our experiences and insights in an intimate, non-judgemental environment.

Part One: How To Find Love
In our first class, we will gain a crucial set of insights to help us make safer, more imaginative and more effective choices in love. In How To Find Love we will:

  • Improve our understanding of why we make the choices we do
  • Discover how our early experiences give us scripts regarding whom we can love, and how
  • Examine harmful repetitive patterns and why we choose people who make us unhappy 

Part Two: How To Be Sociable
In week two, we develop the tools to make a greater success of our relationships with friends, colleagues and strangers. How To Be Sociable tackles, head on, the multiple challenges of knowing how to be with others. It delivers penetrating answers to the following questions:

  • What is the relationship between vulnerability and connection?
  • How can one be at ease in social situations?
  • How can we have deeper, more meaningful conversations? 

Part Three: A Night of Better Conversation - Relationships
In week three we take our new insights and skills out of the classroom to enjoy an evening of adventurous conversation with other curious, open-minded people at The School of Life’s A Night of Better Conversation: Relationships.

A Night of Better Conversation has been designed to help us enjoy rich and memorable conversations about things that really matter in life, inspired by the ideas of great thinkers and philosophers. The night will be broken into theory and practice. You will begin by learning a specific technique for better conversation and then invited to practice the technique with other people – all focused on the theme of relationships.

Part Four: How To Make Love Last
Back in the classroom, in week four we learn seven core skills that underpin successful long-term relationships. We will learn:

  • How to communicate, teach and learn
  • How to allow others to get close to us
  • How to understand and explain our distinctive way of feeling loved
  • How to navigate conflict
  • How to deal with sexual differences and awkward desires 


TIMETABLE

Thursday 8 November, 5.45 – 9pm (School of Life Classroom)
Part One: How To Find Love
5.45pm Welcome
6.00pm Class begins
7.30pm Break (times vary)
9.00pm Class finishes 

Thursday 15 November, 5.45 – 9pm (School of Life Classroom)
Part Two: How To Be Sociable
5.45pm Welcome
6.00pm Class begins
7.30pm Break (times vary)
9.00pm Class finishes  

Thursday 22 November, 6.30 – 9pm (Spaces, Surry Hills)
Part Three: A Night of Better Conversation: Relationships
6.30pm Doors Open & Drinks
7.00pm Welcome & introduction
7.15pm Technique 1 & conversation
7.30pm Technique 2 & conversation
8.00pm Technique 3 & conversation
8.30pm Permission to Speak Freely
9.00pm Event concludes, bar open for continued conversation

Thursday 29 November, 5.45 – 9pm (School of Life Classroom)
Part Four: How To Make Love Last
5.45pm Welcome
6.00pm Class begins
7.30pm Break (times vary)
9.00pm Class finishes 

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Please be aware, our Looking For Love four-week course contains material from the following individual classes: How To Find Love, How To Be Sociable and How To Make Love Last.

Compatibility is an achievement of love; it shouldn’t be its precondition.

- Alain de Botton

ABOUT COURSES

Courses allow time for an in-depth exploration of the topic through conversation and activities. Our courses provide an opportunity to work with leading members of our faculty over the course of a structured period. 

COURSE LEADERS

How To Find Love
Dr Sumant Badami 
(or Monty as he is known to most) is an Anthropologist who gained his PhD from Macquarie University. Apart from being a passionate educator at primary, secondary and tertiary levels, he is a celebrant, jazz singer, martial arts instructor and currently training to become an officer in the Australian Army Reserves. He is fascinated by the experiences and habits of real people all over the world. He is driven to understand our humanity in all its shapes and forms; from how we physically evolved to become this completely weird and flawed species, to how we survived in spite of these flaws to populate nearly every square inch of the planet and live successfully in so many different ways. He is excited about human evolution, religion and ritual, identity, human agency, gender, power, politics and the state. 

ANOBC: Relationships
Dr Tim Dean is a philosopher and science writer. He has a PhD from the University of New South Wales on evolution and morality, and has an interest in ethics, the philosophy of biology, philosophy of science and moral psychology. He is an Honorary Associate in the Philosophy department at the University of Sydney. In 2015 he won the Australasian Association of Philosophy Media Professionals' Award for his writing on philosophy in New PhilosopherAcuity MagazineCosmos, ABC's The Drum and on Channel 10's The Project

How To Be Sociable
Sophi Bruce
 crafts learning experiences for a range of people and contexts that focus on thinking differently, developing leadership impact and adapting to change. Sophi has lived and worked extensively in the UK and now in Australia where she holds roles with the University of Technology Sydney and Social Leadership Australia.  She has previously worked within public and commercial sectors and holds a Honours degree in English Literature and a Masters in Communication.  Her formative years were spent growing up in a commune learning the basics of collaboration, perspective sharing and tolerance. crafts learning experiences for a range of people and contexts that focus on thinking differently, developing leadership impact and adapting to change. Sophi has lived and worked extensively in the UK and now in Australia where she holds roles with the University of Technology Sydney and Social Leadership Australia.  She has previously worked within public and commercial sectors and holds a Honours degree in English Literature and a Masters in Communication.  Her formative years were spent growing up in a commune learning the basics of collaboration, perspective sharing and tolerance.

How To Make Love Last
Dr Emma Agnew
 is a Clinical Psychologist, originally from Scotland, who trained and worked in London, before moving to Australia. Her therapeutic work includes running creative therapy workshops in an adolescent psychiatric ward, designing and delivering  group and individual therapy in a male prison, and working in a human rights organisation with refugees. Her doctoral research centred around gang members and constructed identities. 

 

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Looking For Love | Four-Week Course

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When and where:
  • Thu 8 Nov 2018 6 – 9pm
  • Thu 15 Nov 2018 6 – 9pm
  • Thu 22 Nov 2018 7 – 9pm
  • Thu 29 Nov 2018 6 – 9pm
    The School of Life, 370 Bourke St, Surry Hills NSW 2010

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TICKETING

Full price: $300.00
Concession: $250.00
Full price + TSOL Press 'Relationships' book: $325.00
Concession + TSOL Press 'Relationships' book: $275.00
(+ $2 booking fee and 1.5% CC fee) 

Valid concession cards include a Health Care Card, Seniors Card, Pensioner Concession Card and current student cards.

Please note that we are unable to offer refunds or transfers with less than 7 days cancellation notice before the original class date.

For general ticketing and box office enquiries please email sydney@theschooloflife.com.au.