Looking For Love
Finding love is no easy task. The challenges we face are complex and constantly evolving, yet rarely explored with any great rigour. To help us navigate this complicated business, we’ve drawn together the best of The School of Life’s relationships curriculum into a four-week intensive course.
With other curious and open-minded people, we will develop the emotional skills to know what we’re looking for in love, and how to overcome the obstacles in our way.
This is not a practical course on how to use dating apps or the best place to meet potential partners. Rather, our curriculum brings together insights from philosophy and psychology to help us understand the emotional concerns that we face in finding and maintaining love.
Each week expert faculty will guide us through ideas and exercises designed to challenge our patterns and instincts around love and relationships and encourage us to share our experiences in an intimate, non-judgemental environment.
Part One: How To Find Love - Monday 5 August
In our first class, we will gain a crucial set of insights to help us make safer, more imaginative and more effective choices in love.
We will explore:
- How to improve our understanding of why we make the choices we do
- How our early experiences influence who we find it easy to love, and how
- Any harmful repetitive patterns and why we choose people who make us unhappy
- How to improve our existing relationships
Part Two: How To Make Love Last - Monday 12 August
In week two we learn seven core skills that underpin successful long-term relationships, and are introduced to the idea that love is not just an emotion; but a skill that can be successfully learnt and practised.
We will discover:
- How to communicate, teach and learn in relationships
- How to allow others to get close to us
- How to understand and explain our distinctive way of feeling loved
- How to navigate conflict
Part Three: How To Be Sociable - Monday 19 August
In week three, we develop the tools to make a greater success of our relationships with friends, colleagues and strangers. We tackle, head on, the multiple challenges of knowing how to be with others.
We will understand:
- The relationship between vulnerability and connection
- How one can be at ease in social situations
- How we can have deeper, more meaningful conversations
Part Four: A Night of Better Conversation: Relationships - Monday 26 August
In week four we take our new insights and skills into an evening of meaningful conversation with our fellow classmates, and have the opportunity to practice self-awareness and communication skills in a sociable and supportive environment.
We will discuss:
- The key issues we face in relationships
- Why we fight and argue with those we love the most
- The assumptions we have been working from when it comes to finding love
Participants also receive a complimentary copy of the School of Life book – Relationships.
TIMETABLE (Part One - Part Three)
TIMETABLE (Part Four)
Compatibility is an achievement of love; it shouldn’t be its precondition.
- Alain de Botton
Emma Agnew is a Clinical Psychologist, originally from Scotland, who trained and worked in London, before moving to Australia. Her therapeutic work includes running creative therapy workshops in an adolescent psychiatric ward, designing and delivering group and individual therapy in a male prison, and working in a human rights organisation with refugees. Her doctoral research centred around gang members and constructed identities.
Dr. Sumant Badami (or Monty as he is known to most) is an Anthropologist and Honorary Associate at Macquarie University. Apart from being a passionate educator at primary, secondary and tertiary levels, he is a celebrant, jazz singer, martial arts instructor and currently training to become an officer in the Australian Army Reserves. He is fascinated by the experiences and habits of real people all over the world. He is driven to understand our humanity in all its shapes and forms; from how we physically evolved to become this completely weird and flawed species, to how we survived in spite of these flaws to populate nearly every square inch of the planet and live successfully in so many different ways.
Sophi Bruce is a learning designer, facilitator, coach and social researcher. She joined TSOL Sydney as a core faculty member in 2015 and teaches across the public and business curriculums. Sophi currently holds senior roles with the University of Technology Sydney and Adaptive Leadership Australia working with a range of people and contexts that focus on thinking differently, leadership impact and adapting to change. She has enjoyed a varied life and career across two sides of the globe and has a First Class Honours degree and Masters in Communication. Sophi is inspired by the wisdom and progress that comes from purposeful and stimulating interactions. She teaches ethics to primary school children, sings in a local community choir and has a penchant for travel and music festivals. She has authored a range of research reports on leadership, social impact and digital futures and regularly contributes to articles and forums on resilience, self-care and purpose. She remains proud of her teenage-self coming first in a short story competition judged by Roald Dahl.
David Joyce is a psychologist working in his own private practice in the inner west of Sydney. David moved to Australia from England nearly 25 years ago and has previously enjoyed stints as a professional actor, musician, film composer, and as a data analyst for several major Australian arts organisations. David is a passionate consumer of the arts, particularly theatre and film. He is a father of two, is a keen soccer player, plays classical guitar and plans to learn the Uillean pipes. David is fascinated by how profoundly early life experiences can shape us as adults and is inspired by the fact that humans have an enormous capacity to enact meaningful and significant change even in the later stages of their lives.