How To Make Love Last

The arts heavily promote the idea that romantic love is time-limited; that it must naturally and inevitably end. We are often left wondering whether love is something we’re destined to fall out of or whether it could indeed be sustained over time.

This class suggests that long-term love is not an accident. It is the result of skills that can be learnt and practiced, rather than an emotional enthusiasm that spontaneously arises (and might then disappear) at the sight of another person. We examine skills around communication, compromise, tolerance, self-understanding and humour.

We consider how partners can learn to be together yet separate, and question whether we should seek to know our lover fully, or cultivate an appreciation of their occasional mystery and right to privacy. We practice the skills required to deepen connections, and look at ways to deal with conflict when communication breaks down.

Finally, we study the art of intelligent disappointment, and consider how dreams of bliss can in fact be the enemies of long-term love.


18.00    Welcome & Class commences
19.45     Break (times vary)
21.00     Class finishes

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'Love does not consist in gazing at each other, but in looking outward together in the same direction.'
— Antoine de Saint-Exupery


Dr. Sumant Bamadi (or Monty as he is known to most) is a freelance anthropologist who gained his PhD from Macquarie University in 2012. Apart from being passionate educator who teaches at the primary, secondary and tertiary levels, he is a celebrant, a jazz singer, a martial arts instructor and is currently training to become an officer in the Australian Army Reserves. Driven by a passion to understand and communicate the importance of human diversity, Monty has developed a number of innovative methods of translating his personal and professional experience into practical and accessible information. He inspires people to think deeply, challenging them to explore a range of creative approaches to understanding their dynamic and ever-changing environment. He currently co-presents a podcast called The Meaning of Life with fellow School of Life Faculty member, Dr Tim Dean.


Our classes have been designed to give useful insights around the big themes in life. You’ll be challenged to think deeply about the issues that matter most, and provided with a space to share your thoughts, ideas and experiences with other curious, open-minded individuals.

These sessions are designed by experts and taught by members of our faculty. They include a mix of lecture and group activity and conversation.  Optional homework is provided for those interested in further study.

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How To Make Love Last


When and where:
  • Thursday 21 September 2017 6 - 9pm
    The School of Life, 370 Bourke St Surry Hills, Sydney NSW 2010


Full price: $80.00
Concession: $70.00
(+ $2 booking fee and 1.5% CC fee)

Valid concession cards include a Health Care Card, Seniors Card, Pensioner Concession Card and current student cards.

Please note that we are unable to offer refunds or transfers with less than 7 days cancellation notice before the original class date.

For ticketing and box office enquiries please call 0481 263 041 or email

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