Who Should I be With? Card Game

A set of cards designed to help you answer that essential question: ‘who should I spend my life with?’

When we try to imagine who we should ideally be with, we're often a bit vague: we might say we long for someone 'fun', 'nice' or 'cute'. But it can help to focus the picture a little, because the more we know about who we in particular really want and need, the better we can be at setting out to find them.

Who Should I Be With? is a game designed to sharpen our sense of what we should be looking for in love. It comprises a number of cards which describe some leading habits and character traits in people. Each card has a character trait on one side and the opposite trait on the reverse; listing the pros and cons of each to help guide you to more successful choices in love. It's a realistic, insightful and often funny tool to help us form better relationships.

Read an extract of the cards here >>

Example Cards:

  • Oddly Tall
    + They’ve learned to carry it off; imposing/heroic; acquired compassion for anyone outside the norm.
    -  They’ll always be conspicuous. Residual sense of being freaky will reveal itself. Hotel beds too small. Long haul a nightmare (unless rich).

  • Surprisingly Short
    + Neat, delicate, pattable; they’ve coped with this challenge - they’ll cope with lots of others; they know it’s character that counts.
    - Suppressed resentment. Overcompensation. It will always be something people notice. Might shout a lot in public.

How to Use the Cards

You might...

  • Sort through the cards, picking out the character traits you appreciate in a partner, and the ones that you find most maddening.

  • Play the game with a friend, and enjoy the opportunity to laugh warmly, given how imperfect we all are, at the paradoxes of choice.

The bold black-and-white design lets you know these cards are concerned with opposite character traits and the mutual embeddedness of strengths and weaknesses, prompting a debate about the duality of any choice we make when it comes to love.

More Tools for Choosing Partners

Class: How to Find Love - Our regular class equips us with a crucial set of insights to help us make safer, more imaginative and more effective choices in love.

Book: How to Find Love - A book from The School of Life Press.

Article: What is Wrong With your Partner - and Why? - An article from the Book of Life.

53 game cards | 89mm x 126mm | Instruction card included

Who Should I be With? Card Game

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