Couple Counselling may sound like something we would only be interested in if a relationship were failing; in fact, it is the single greatest tool that can prevent it from doing so.
Couple Counselling is a safe forum in which to discuss issues which, when handled by the couple only by themselves, can too easily descend into misunderstanding or recrimination. When we feel that we haven’t ourselves been heard properly by our partner, we’re less likely to want to hear them in turn. But in the consulting room, everyone can safely have their say, can feel acknowledged, and as a result, progress can be made.
The couple therapist becomes the wise broker, allowing each person to express feelings (however awkward). They can see things through the eyes of both parties but never take either of their sides. Couple Counselling is a safe diplomatic back channel, away from the day to day. The therapist can hold both parties back for just long enough that they can start to understand what the other is going through. Renewed tenderness can follow.
A common fear before going to a couple counsellor is that they may take the side of the other person in the relationship. There is in practice no such danger. The counsellor has only one responsibility; and that is to the relationship itself.
If a decision has been taken to split, a counsellor can also be helpful in helping to negotiate a graceful and kindly ending, one that honours the best sides of the relationship.
Far from a self-indulgence, undergoing couples counselling is one of the most generous things we could ever do for ourselves and one another.
If you have any questions about this service, please email us.
All the psychotherapists and psychologists affiliated with The School of Life are registered with the United Kingdom Council for Psychotherapy (UKCP), the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP), the British Psychoanalytic Council or the British Psychological Society (BPS).
Once you have made a booking, one of our psychotherapists will be in touch via email to arrange a day and time for the initial session. The session will last for 50 minutes and the fee is £100. This will be an opportunity for you to have an in-depth conversation with a highly qualified psychotherapist. You may then choose to have weekly follow-on sessions, which you'll arrange directly with the psychotherapist.
Sessions take place in the therapy rooms at 8 Northington Street or online – please confirm the location with your therapist.
Please note that once your appointment time and date have been confirmed, we have a forty-eight hour cancellation policy. Any cancellations less than 48 hours prior to an appointment, or any no-shows will be charged. Any requests to reschedule less than 48 hours prior to an appointment, cannot be guaranteed and the original appointment will be charged for other than in exceptional circumstances. Whilst we will endeavour to book an appointment date as soon as possible, please note that this is a very popular consulting service.
If you are unable to arrange a session, then we will offer a refund within 6 months of your original booking. If the booking was made more than 6 months ago but less than a year ago, we will gladly offer a gift voucher for the original value of the booking. Bookings made over 12 months ago that were not arranged, cannot be refunded other than in exceptional circumstances. If you were gifted a session that you do not wish to take, then we will happily exchange this for a gift voucher within 12 months of the original booking. To request a refund or exchange for a gift voucher please email [email protected]
Online sessions are available for anyone around the world. Sessions will be held in English. Once you have made a booking, one of the psychotherapists will be in touch via email to arrange a time for the initial session. The session will last 50 minutes, and the fee is £100 (or $125 US). Ongoing weekly sessions can be arranged directly with the psychotherapist. Please ensure you have a sufficient internet connection and a Zoom account ahead of your session.