Looking For Love
Finding love is no easy task. The challenges we face are complex and constantly evolving, yet rarely explored with any great rigour. To help us navigate this complicated business, we’ve drawn together the best of The School of Life’s relationships curriculum into a four-week intensive course.
With other curious and open-minded people, we will develop the emotional skills to know what we’re looking for in love, and how to overcome the obstacles in our way.
This is not a practical course on how to use dating apps or the best place to meet potential partners. Rather, our curriculum brings together insights from philosophy and psychology to help us understand the emotional concerns that we face in finding and maintaining love.
Each week expert faculty will guide us through ideas and exercises designed to challenge our patterns and instincts around love and relationships and encourage us to share our experiences in an intimate, non-judgemental environment.
Part One: How To Find Love - Monday 5 August
In our first class, we will gain a crucial set of insights to help us make safer, more imaginative and more effective choices in love.
We will explore:
- How to improve our understanding of why we make the choices we do
- How our early experiences influence who we find it easy to love, and how
- Any harmful repetitive patterns and why we choose people who make us unhappy
- How to improve our existing relationships
Part Two: How To Make Love Last - Monday 12 August
In week two we learn seven core skills that underpin successful long-term relationships, and are introduced to the idea that love is not just an emotion; but a skill that can be successfully learnt and practised.
We will discover:
- How to communicate, teach and learn in relationships
- How to allow others to get close to us
- How to understand and explain our distinctive way of feeling loved
- How to navigate conflict
Part Three: How To Be Sociable - Monday 19 August
In week three, we develop the tools to make a greater success of our relationships with friends, colleagues and strangers. We tackle, head on, the multiple challenges of knowing how to be with others.
We will understand:
- The relationship between vulnerability and connection
- How one can be at ease in social situations
- How we can have deeper, more meaningful conversations
Part Four: A Night of Better Conversation: Relationships - Monday 26 August
In week four we take our new insights and skills into an evening of meaningful conversation with our fellow classmates, and have the opportunity to practice self-awareness and communication skills in a sociable and supportive environment.
We will discuss:
- The key issues we face in relationships
- Why we fight and argue with those we love the most
- The assumptions we have been working from when it comes to finding love
Participants also receive a complimentary copy of the School of Life book – Relationships.
Compatibility is an achievement of love; it shouldn’t be its precondition.
- Alain de Botton
Sarah Pant is a psychotherapist, change specialist, organisational development consultant and group facilitator. Sarah brings over thirteen years experience and a conscious creativity to every endeavour. She has a particular interest in conflict work, ecopsychology and the creative process and dynamics of change. Before her career in coaching and psychotherapy Sarah completed a Bachelor degree in Music Theatre at the Western Australian Academy of Performing Arts (WAAPA). She worked as a performing artist and shared her theatre and musical skills through a variety of creative workshops within community groups, schools and youth justice services throughout Europe and Australia.
Pierz Newton-John is a writer, psychotherapist and software designer. Pierz’s short stories have been widely published in Australian literary journals and anthologies, and his critically acclaimed collection “Fault Lines” was published by Spineless Wonders in 2012. As a psychotherapist, Pierz worked for many years in private practice and in the correctional system. He wrote a book on post-prison reintegration which for several years was provided to all prisoners released from Victorian gaols. More recently Pierz has pursued an interest in technology, working as a web developer for the not-for-profit counselling organisation On the Line.
Myke Bartlett is a journalist, writer and teacher. He joined the School of Life Australia as a founding faculty member in 2013. Since then, he has taught and devised a range of sessions and classes, mostly focused on the art of conversation. He has written for some of Australia's most respected cultural publications and was the arts editor at The Weekly Review for the best part of a decade. As a journalist, he has spoken to some of the world's most interesting people and does his best to find something interesting to talk about with everyone else. Despite years of intensive study, he is still baffled by small talk.
Dr. Jarrod White is a Clinical Psychologist who works with people to gain a greater sense of contentment and connection. Jarrod’s work has focused on the relationship between culture and mental health, expanded upon within his thesis, “Understanding trauma: a cross-cultural comparison”. He has written widely on the relationship between culture and mental health and the way that cultural beliefs, ideas and assumptions influence the individual. He has been published in the International Journal of Culture and Mental Health and is a consulting psychologist for the Asylum Seeker Resource Centre as well as running his own clinical practice at The Mind Room.