Stay or Leave?
It can be remarkably hard to know what level of compromise, hard work, difficulty and everyday scratchiness we should accept in love. On the one hand, our culture presents us with seductive images of constant intense love and passion; on the other, we hear reminders that relationships are hard work and that we should keep our expectations in check.
How then are we to assess the relationships that come our way? How can we decide what the right, sensible level of joy and frustration might be?
This class takes an audit of love in general and our relationships in particular. It examines the following topics:
- How much should two people argue and how should they do it?
- What should a partner understand about us? And what should we not expect them to grasp?
- How do we assess our own ideas of a ‘deal-breaker’?
- What level of sexual satisfaction is to be expected?
Aside from auditing our attitudes to love, this class shows us that many of the answers we crave around love are already within us – and offers a variety of approaches for improving or exiting relationships – giving us the tools to put our desires into practice.
'Love rests on two pillars: surrender and autonomy. Our need for togetherness exists alongside our need for separateness.'
― Esther Perel
Pierz Newton-John is a writer, psychotherapist and software designer. Pierz’s short stories have been widely published in Australian literary journals and anthologies, and his critically acclaimed collection “Fault Lines” was published by Spineless Wonders in 2012. As a psychotherapist, Pierz worked for many years in private practice and in the correctional system. He wrote a book on post-prison reintegration which for several years was provided to all prisoners released from Victorian gaols. More recently Pierz has pursued an interest in technology, working as a web developer for the not-for-profit counselling organisation On the Line.