How To Fail
The modern world demands one thing above all else: that we succeed. The stories we tell ourselves are around striving, overcoming huge odds and eventually winning, normally in some important sector of the economy. Society has a particularly harsh word reserved for those who don’t make it. They are – society says - ‘losers’.
However, the greatest likelihood is that we’re going to fail in some area of our lives or another, especially in the professional sphere (the focus of this class is particularly on failure in relation to work).
Our society knows so much about preparing for success; and yet it pays recklessly little attention to the far more likely and urgent matter: how we can handle failure with dignity, understanding, wisdom – and perhaps a touch of humour.
This class looks at the topic across philosophy, psychology, art and religion, as well as probing into our own emotions and backgrounds.
- The perfectionist drive in the modern world, where it comes from and how best to respond to it.
- Our parents: what they wanted and how we fear disappointing them.
- What lies at the heart of the dread of failing, especially as it relates to a loss of status and dignity.
- What it means to fail ‘well’.
- The real statistics of success; and how good we are at denying them.
- The Ancient Greek idea of noble failure and the Zen Buddhist notion of good imperfection.
- And the media’s influence on our understanding of failure and success.
This class seeks to equip us with the tools to handle failure on our own terms – which is a success of its own. We leave with a grown-up understanding of what we are up against and a consoling impression of the universality of reversal, imperfection and a degree of melancholy. No life is free of failure, and so we realise that failing well is an art all of its own – one of the most necessary we could ever learn.
5.45pm Drinks & welcome
6.00pm Class Begins
7.30pm Break (times vary)
9.00pm Class finishes
'Success is most often achieved by those who don't know that failure is inevitable.'
– Coco Chanel
How to Fail is one of the twelve classes that comprise our core curriculum. Our classes tackle the core themes of emotional life, from relationships and the workplace, to understanding the self and exploring our relationship with culture. You can explore the full curriculum here.
The School of Life Curriculum has been written, designed and quality assured by The School of Life HQ in London, led by Alain de Botton. Presented as an EQ learning journey, these 12 classes and 4 full-day workshops bring together over 10 years of teaching and continuous improvement of our emotional intelligence curriculum around the world.
Our classes have been designed to give useful insights around the big themes in life. You’ll be challenged to think deeply and have courageous conversations about the issues that matter most, and you’ll be encouraged to step outside your comfort zone in a safe space with other curious, open-minded individuals.
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