How to Have a More Interesting Social Life

Knowing how to get the most out of the people we meet, live with and work around is fundamental to our chances of a fulfilled life. Too often we feel we’re unable properly to convey our real selves and cannot relate naturally to others. Conversations can get stuck, or be sterile or routine. We’re unable to charm. We struggle to enjoy the company of others, or effectively convey who we are to them. We've written books, classes and digital content to help navigate the challenges of achieving a truly fulfilled social life. We've explored how to start more interesting conversations, how to be nice (and why it's important), and how we can enjoy our relationships with friends and family more deeply. 

On Starting Better Conversations

Having a decent conversation is something most of us imagine we can do without any problem – and certainly without much thought. These things just happen naturally. Don’t they? But in truth, truly good conversations come along very rarely; largely because our societies fall for the Romantic myth that knowing how to talk to other people is something we are born knowing how to do, rather than an art dependent on a little planning and a few skills. Finding oneself in a good conversation can feel as haphazard and random as stumbling on a beautiful square in a foreign city at night ­– and realising one won’t reliably know how to get back there in daytime. The tools below are each designed to help us find good conversations regularly and reliably, with the help of some well placed prompts.

On the Overlooked Quality of Kindness

To create a more bearable world, we need to remember a central virtue that is as unglamorous as it is essential: kindness.