Stay or Leave?

What is ‘Stay or Leave’?

Stay or Leave is a 3 hour class by The School of Life which takes place regularly in our classroom at our London HQ. It is one of 12 classes around our 4 core themes: Love, Work, Self and Culture. The aim of this class is to help you to develop a core emotional skill.

Why should I attend?

What is a good enough relationship? It can be difficult to know what level of compromise, hard work, difficulty and everyday scratchiness we should accept in love. Our culture provides us with seductive images of constantly intense and passionate versions of love, although relationships do tend to require hard work and we should keep our expectations in check.

How do we assess our relationships? How do we understand what the right levels of joy and frustrations are?  There are a variety of approaches for either improving existing relationships or giving us the tools to put our desires into practice.

What will I learn?

Stay or Leave teaches:

  • How much should two people argue and how should they do it?
  • What should a partner understand about us? And what should we not expect them to grasp?
  • How do we assess our own ideas of a ‘deal-breaker’?
  • What level of sexual satisfaction is to be expected?

This class costs £55 and is run by an experienced, compassionate member of our faculty. You can read more about our faculty here. 

Dates and times are available to book below. New dates for this class are added throughout the year.

Weekday evening classes
6:40pm     doors open, for drinks, nibble and introductions
7:00pm     class begins
9:30pm     class ends

Saturday afternoon classes
2:10pm      doors open, for coffee, snacks and introductions
2:30pm     class begins
5:00pm     class ends

Classroom Location: The School of Life, 70 Marchmont Street, WC1N 1AB

For more information, please see our London FAQs or contact

Classroom Testimonials

‘This was my first session, and I actually really enjoyed it. It was insightful, informative and kind of a bit unburdening in its own way. I look forward to doing more of these. Thank you very much!’

‘Good course; well-presented; surprised at the focus on staying over potentially leaving, but interesting nevertheless.’

‘Made my thinking more organised and clearer; was nice to talk to strangers and be totally honest.’

Buy tickets for
Stay or Leave?

£40 Friends | £55 Standard (plus fees)

When and where:
  • Tue 2 Jun 2020 6.40pm
    The School of Life, 70 Marchmont Street, WC1N 1AB