Stay or Leave?
This is a class, intended both for people who are single and who are in couples, that explores the question: what is a good enough relationship?
It can be remarkably hard to know what level of compromise, hard work, difficulty and everyday scratchiness we should accept in love. On the one hand, our culture presents us with seductive images of constant intense love and passion; on the other, we hear reminders that relationships are hard work and that we should keep our expectations in check.
How then are we to assess the relationships that come our way? How can we decide what the right, sensible level of joy and frustration might be?
This class takes an audit of love in general and our relationships in particular. It examines the following topics:
- How much should two people argue and how should they do it?
- What should a partner understand about us? And what should we not expect them to grasp?
- How do we assess our own ideas of a ‘deal-breaker’?
- What level of sexual satisfaction is to be expected?
Aside from auditing our attitudes to love, this class also offers a variety of approaches for either improving or exiting relationships, giving us the tools to put our desires into practice.
This class shows us that many of the answers we crave around love are within us already, waiting for the correct tool to extract them.
Sarah Stein Lubrano began work at The School of Life helping create some of the earliest YouTube videos. She has now found a natural home in our content team, where she combines her love of intellectual ideas, emotional wisdom, and creative media.
Sarah does research, writing, and design for everything from films to apps to interactive workshops. She not only creates internal content for The School but also designs bespoke content for clients.
Sarah holds a bachelor’s degree from Harvard College and an MPhil in Political Thought and Intellectual History from Cambridge University.
Fiona Buckland is a life coach and writer, who works to help people switch off autopilot and unleash their potential to live richer and more fulfilled lives. She is also a Fulbright scholar and published author, with a Ph.D. in Performance Studies from Tisch School of the Arts at New York University, where she lectured in writing and performance. Rather than continue a career in academia, she took a road less traveled and worked extensively in UK and US corporate life, including key strategic roles in publishing, where she worked with thought-leaders from the worlds of psychology, neuroscience, behavioural science, history and culture. Now she dedicates her time to coaching individuals, groups and organisations, writing, and facilitating classes and workshops on well-being, leadership, creativity, resilience, motivation, making better decisions, and living a life with purpose. For the last few years, she has also worked as a curator, producer and speaker coach for TEDx.
Gabriel Gbadamosi is a poet, playwright, broadcaster and essayist. His London novel Vauxhall (2013) won the Tibor Jones Pageturner Prize, Best International Novel at the Sharjah Book Fair and was runner-up for the McKitterick Prize. He was AHRC Creative and Performing Arts Fellow in European and African performance at the Pinter Centre, Goldsmiths, a Judith E. Wilson Fellow for creative writing at Cambridge University and Royal Literary Fund Fellow at City & Guilds of London Art School.
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Stay or Leave? is one of the twelve classes that comprise our core curriculum. Our classes tackle the core themes of emotional life, from relationships and the workplace, to understanding the self and exploring our relationship with culture. You can explore the full curriculum here.
This class is in a sequence with How to Make Love Last and How to Find Love which together cover The School of Life's ideas on relationships.
Our classes have been designed to give useful insights around the big themes in life. You’ll be challenged to think deeply about the issues that matter most, and provided with a space to share your thoughts, ideas and experiences with other curious, open-minded individuals.
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