How to Talk to Your Children - Philippa Perry in Conversation with Alain de Botton
Unless they are unusually blessed, the relationship between any parent and child will be marked by moments of miscommunication. We can probably remember such moments from our own childhoods: unfair accusations; impossible demands; an intense frustration that we were not being listened to. We yelled things, slammed doors, and vowed never to speak to others the same way. But having grown up and become parents ourselves - often with a radically different mindset and priorities - we find ourselves repeating the very same mistakes.
We would do well to remember our own youthful perspective and aspire to talk to our children in the way we wish we had been growing up. Our childhood experience shows us that a better way is possible: with patience and sympathy (for both our children and ourselves) we can learn to speak our minds in different ways and develop a common language based not on aired grievances and appeals to authority, but on mutual trust and understanding.
In her new book The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read (and Your Children Will Be Glad that You Did), Philippa Perry draws on more than twenty year’s experience as both a psychotherapist and a parent to examine the reasons why we struggle to talk to our children and suggest ways we can communicate better. It helps us understand how our own upbringing impacts our behaviour as parents; understand and validate our child’s feelings and opinions; break negative cycles and patterns; and both learn and grow from our mistakes.
This March, Perry will be joined on stage by Alain de Botton, founder of The School of Life, for a conversation about the entirely understandable errors parents make and alternative methods of communicating that can alleviate tensions, strengthen bonds, and help our children grow into healthy and fulfilled adults. Join us for a lively, instructive, and consoling evening that aims to establish a whole new language of parenting - an evening you’ll wish your parents could have attended.
Ticket includes The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read (and Your Children Will Be Glad that You Did) RRP £12.99