How to Make Love Last
At The School of Life, we don’t believe that love must inevitably fizzle out over time; this happens when it has not been wisely managed.
In How to Make Love Last, we cover seven core skills that underpin successful long-term relationships. We will learn:
- How to communicate, teach and learn.
- How not to sulk.
- How to allow others to get close to us.
- How to understand and explain our distinctive way of feeling loved.
- How to forgive and be forgiven.
- How to navigate conflict through humour.
- How to deal with sexual differences and awkward desires.
The class proposes that we sometimes give up on love too soon. The end of love is not inevitable, and even seemingly terminal situations can be rescued. We are introduced to the idea that love is not just an emotion; it is a skill that can be successfully learnt and practised.
David Baker is a writer, coach and consultant based in London. He specialises in using simple language to bring complex topics to new audiences and has written and spoken extensively on subjects as diverse as economics, kidney dialysis, cultural anthropology, work/life balance and the science of theme parks. He was the launch managing editor of Wired in the UK and his work has appeared in many publications including Wired, The Face, Arena, The Financial Times, The Independent, The Times, The Sunday Telegraph, Wallpaper and The Guardian.
Maurits Kalff is a psychologist, coach, trainer and magistrate, based in London. He studied Psychology at the University of Amsterdam, in his native Netherlands. After qualifying as a research psychologist he climbed a corporate ladder, only to conclude that professional autonomy is a more rewarding premise to satisfy his curiosity. He set up a coaching psychology practice, working in both the public and private sector. From working with people living with chronic illness to investment bankers, the focus is on quality of life, fulfilling careers and relationships.
Gabriel Gbadamosi is a poet, playwright, broadcaster and essayist. His London novel Vauxhall (2013) won the Tibor Jones Pageturner Prize, Best International Novel at the Sharjah Book Fair and was runner-up for the McKitterick Prize. He was AHRC Creative and Performing Arts Fellow in European and African performance at the Pinter Centre, Goldsmiths, a Judith E. Wilson Fellow for creative writing at Cambridge University and Royal Literary Fund Fellow at City & Guilds of London Art School.
Sarah Stein Lubrano began work at The School of Life helping create some of the earliest YouTube videos. She has now found a natural home in our content team, where she combines her love of intellectual ideas, emotional wisdom, and creative media. Sarah does research, writing, and design for everything from films to apps to interactive workshops. She not only creates internal content for The School but also designs bespoke content for clients.
Maurits Kalff is a psychologist, coach, trainer and magistrate, based in London. His coaching psychology practice works in both the public and private sector; working with people living with chronic illness to investment bankers; Maurits' focus is on quality of life, fulfilling careers and relationships.
Fiona Buckland is a life-coach and writer, especially interested in themes of emotional intelligence and culture. She dedicates her time to coaching, writing, and facilitating classes and workshops on well-being, leadership, creativity, resilience, motivation, making better decisions, and living a life with purpose. She has also worked as a curator, producer and speaker coach for TEDx.
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How to Make Love Last is one of the twelve classes that comprise our core curriculum. Our classes tackle the core themes of emotional life, from relationships and the workplace, to understanding the self and exploring our relationship with culture. You can explore the full curriculum here.
This class is in a sequence with How to Find Love and Stay or Leave? which together cover The School of Life's ideas on relationships.
Our classes have been designed to give useful insights around the big themes in life. You’ll be challenged to think deeply about the issues that matter most, and provided with a space to share your thoughts, ideas and experiences with other curious, open-minded individuals.
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