Couple Therapy may sound like something we would only be interested in if a relationship were failing; in fact, it is the single greatest tool that can prevent it from doing so.
Couple Therapy is a safe forum in which to discuss issues that, when couples handle only by themselves, can too easily descend into misunderstanding or recrimination. When we feel that we haven’t ourselves been heard properly by our partner, we are less likely to want to hear them in turn. In the consulting room, everyone can safely have their say, can feel acknowledged, and as a result, progress can be made.
The couple therapist becomes the wise broker, allowing each person to express feelings (however awkward). They can see things through the eyes of both parties but never take either of their sides. Couple Counselling is a safe diplomatic back channel, away from the day to day. The therapist can hold both parties back for just long enough that they can start to understand what the other is going through. Renewed tenderness can follow.
A common fear before going to a couple therapist is that they may take the side of the other person in the relationship. There is in practice no such danger. The therapist has only one responsibility; and that is to the relationship itself.
If a decision has been taken to split, a therapist can also be helpful in helping to negotiate a graceful and kindly ending, one that honours the best sides of the relationship.
Far from a self-indulgence, undergoing couple therapy is one of the most generous things we could ever do for ourselves and one another.
For more information about our service, please read our Psychotherapy FAQs.
About Couple Therapy
All The School of Life Psychotherapists are listed here (within our Faculty members) and are either registered with the United Kingdom Council for Psychotherapy (UKCP), the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP), the British Psychoanalytic Council or the British Psychological Society (BPS).
“Our psychotherapists are fully trained and experienced professionals, but we are more than that – we are open-minded, dedicated, and curious. We aren’t dogmatic and although we care deeply about psychology and psychotherapy, we also recognize the immense contributions philosophy, culture, art, music, and literature have made to our understanding of the human condition. We appreciate the pain and joy of being alive, and we provide a safe, private space for exploring and making sense of some of the darkness. Psychotherapy can help you manage the complexities of simply being human.” Charlotte Fox Weber, Head of Psychotherapy
Booking Information - In person & Online Psychotherapy
Psychotherapy is available for anyone around the world. Our therapists offer both in-person and online sessions. All sessions are held in English.
The initial consultation will last for 50 minutes and the fee is £100 (or USD/EUR equivalent). This will be an opportunity for you to have an in-depth conversation with a highly qualified psychotherapist. You may then choose to have weekly follow-on sessions, which you'll arrange directly with the psychotherapist.
In-person sessions take place in our therapy space in London: 8 Northington Street, WC1N 2JQ.
Online sessions require that you have a reliable internet connection, privacy and a Zoom account set up ahead of your session.
“Discussing our relationship struggles in therapy saved us from falling apart, and we are closer and more resolved as a result.”
Please refer to our Psychotherapy FAQs page for more information.