How to Find Love (English)

Choosing a partner is one of the trickiest and most consequential decisions we will ever make. The costs of repeated failure, in terms of distress and wasted time, are immense. Partners used to be found for us by parents and society, but now we are expected to follow our feelings - to locate people by ourselves, according to intuition. This should be an improvement, but all too often our emotions pull us towards hugely problematic characters and dynamics, according to a logic we seldom fully understand.

In How to Find Love, we will:

  • Improve our understanding of why we make the choices we do.
  • Discover how our early experiences give us scripts regarding whom we can love, and how.
  • Examine harmful repetitive patterns.
  • Ask whether we sometimes reject love and affection because it makes us anxious.
  • Study three of the most common techniques by which we sabotage our chances of fulfilment.
  • Look at common problems that arise in long-term relationships, including ‘Perfectionism’ and the difficulty of learning from one another.
  • Explore ways to improve our existing relationships.

This class equips us with a crucial set of insights to help us make safer, more imaginative and more effective choices in love.

Our classes and workshops consist of a varied mixture of input, self-reflection as well as one-to-one and group discussions. Our experienced lecturers convey a multitude of ideas that stimulate the mind and offer new perspectives. You can meet exciting and like-minded people and make new friends. No prior knowledge or preparation are required.

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18.20 - venue opens
18.30 - welcome & drinks
18.45 - class commences
20.15 - break (times vary)
21.30 - class finishes

COURSE LEADER, 8th October

Dr. Jörg BernardyDr. Jörg Bernardy studied Philosophy and Romance Studies in Cologne, Paris and Düsseldorf. He completed his PhD in philosophy and was research associate at the Staatliche Hochschule für Gestaltung (state college of design) Karlsruhe as well as at the University of Hildesheim. He lives in Hamburg as an independent author and formerly worked as a editor for the weekly newspaper ZEIT’s »Akademie«. His illustrated books »Philosophische Gedankensprünge: Denk selbst« (»Philosophical Mental Leaps: Think for yourself«) and »Mann Frau Mensch« (»Man Woman Human«) are published by the renowned children’s and youth books publisher Beltz & Gelberg. At The School of Life Berlin, Jörg Bernardy plays an integral and leading part in executing and developing the public progammes and content all over Germany.

COURSE LEADER, 22th November

190812 Portrait Sarah bhandariSarah Sarita Bhandari studied both environmental sciences and philosophy as well as a master degree in „Global Change Management“. She is highly passionate about eastern philosophy and spent three months at the oldest meditation- and yoga-institute of India. These days, she is researching the connection of the development of consciousness on an individual level in relation to societal sustainability at the Institute for Advanced Sustainability Studies. Regarding these topics, she gives co-creative lectures and workshops at schools, universities, and festivals. At The School of Life, she teaches classes for our public workshop-program.



Standard: 45 € incl. VAT

Reduced: 18 € incl. VAT
We offer a discount to holders of a berlinpass, severly disabled people, apprentices and students with valid ID depending on availability. Please note that we will check your ID for proof of eligibility on arrival at event.

Double-Ticket: 69,50 € incl. VAT
Bring a friend! We offer a limited amount of Double Tickets for a reduced price of 34,75 € per person instead of 45 €.

Please note that we are unable to offer refunds or transfers with less than 10 days cancellation notice before the original class date. 

Tickets für
How to Find Love (English)

18 € - 45 €

Wann und wo:
  • Tue 8 Oct 2019 18:30 - 21:30
    The School of Life, Lychener Straße 7, 10437 Berlin

Standard: 45 € incl. VAT

Double-Ticket (2 persons): 69,50 € incl. VAT

Reduced: 18 € incl. VAT


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