Choosing a partner is one of the trickiest and most consequential decisions we will ever make. The costs of repeated failure, in terms of distress and wasted time, are immense. Partners used to be found for us by parents and society, but now we are expected to follow our feelings - to locate people by ourselves, according to intuition. This should be an improvement, but all too often our emotions pull us towards hugely problematic characters and dynamics, according to a logic we seldom fully understand.
In How to Find Love, we will:
• Improve our understanding of why we make the choices we do.
• Discover how our early experiences give us scripts regarding whom we can love, and how.
• Examine harmful repetitive patterns.
• Examine the extent to which we choose people who make us unhappy.
• Study three of the most common techniques by which we sabotage our chances of fulfilment.
• Learn how there are always more possible partners than we initially believe.
• Broaden our unconscious scripts for whom we can love.
This class equips us with a crucial set of insights to help us make safer, more imaginative and more effective choices in love.
This class is in a sequence with How to Make Love Last and Stay or Leave which together cover The School of Life's ideas on relationships.
Our classes have been designed to give useful insights around the big themes in life. You’ll be challenged to think deeply about the issues that matter most, and provided with a space to share your thoughts, ideas and experiences with other curious, open-minded individuals.
These sessions are designed by experts and taught by members of our faculty. They include a mix of lecture, conversation and group activity.
To get an idea of what to expect from classes, workshops and events in our classroom, watch this short film.