Your ability to interpret a flash of smiling teeth, a
fleeting grimace, or a gape of incredulity and to understand
that your companion might be feeling something different to
you is fundamental to your ability to maintain meaningful
relationships. New research seems to support...
There is a problem, a serious cultural problem, about
solitude. Being alone in our present society raises an
important question about identity and well-being. In the
first place, and rather urgently, the question needs to be
asked. And then – possibly, tentatively, over a...
Empathy – the imaginative act of stepping into the shoes
of another person and looking at the world from their
perspective – is a more popular concept today than at any
point in human history. It’s on the lips of everyone from
Emotional health is the sense that what is happening, is
happening now. It is experiencing the world as first-hand,
immediate, rather than only knowing what was experienced
when you reflect upon it later. You are, as the sports
commentators put it, ‘in the zone’.
Sex... sex... sex... The world seems full of it nowadays.
Every tabloid features tales of celebrity orgies. Every
television programme includes seduction, infidelity and
erotica - and that's just the documentaries. Walk along the
High Street and you're bound to pass a sex shop....
When it comes to partnership, the vast majority of the men
I've met - whether professionally as coaching clients and
seminar participants or personally as friends and colleagues
- are deeply wellmeaning. In particular when the
conversation turns, as it often does, to my...
You can mark your progress breath by breath.
Literally. And it's there that I recommend you begin. Every
time you think I hate that f****** b****, I want you to
neutralize that thought with a breath. Calm your mind.
Breathe in deeply with intention,...
A US-based psychologist, Kip Williams, was strolling through
a park when a mis-thrown Frisbee caught him on the back of
his head. Unhurt, he picked it up and threw it back to one
of the players. They threw it back to him. Briefly...
Our definition of community is changing. It’s crazy how
few of us know our neighbours: their names, their phone
numbers, what they’re about. The explosion of online
"social" networking has only made it easier to avoid
face-to-face contact in the real world. What might...
We are, as Aristotle noted, defined by words. Speech is a
uniquely human gift. Yet it is surprisingly hard to talk,
even with our intimates.
Take Mr. and Mrs. Hendy, from Monty Python’s wicked
Meaning of Life. We find the retired American couple at...
I suspect that something has become skewed in the way we
think about love. You feel it keenly on Valentine's Day. It
is not the sentimentality, though it can be sugar-sweet. It
is not the commercialization, though it is annoying when
roses double in...